2006-09-11 06:27:34 · 36 answers · asked by jac44129 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to be honest with hime. A marriage should be based on trust and openness. If you feel that way he needs to know that so he knows what he's dealing with. Also, you may not think he wants one, but how will you know unless you talk with him? Maybe there's something you both can do in order to save the marriage and just haven't been able to find out yet. Open communcating is what every relationship needs.
2006-09-11 06:32:53 · answer #1 · answered by missfinley2u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, have you done everything you could to save your marriage, before you choose to walk away. If you have, and you are feeling good about your decision to divorce, then you leave knowing that you did what you could to save the relationship. Telling him is not going to be easy, after all, he is obviously not ready to give up on your relationsip. Unfortunately for him, a marriage doesn't work if both partners are not committed. Be kind, and just tell him that you are not happy, and as much as it hurts you too, you want to get a divorce so you both can find happiness and move on with your lives. Break-ups are never easy, but the two of you deserve to be happy. keep that in mind, and you will make it through one of the most difficult talks of your life. Just make sure this is what you deffinately want before you open your mouth and then it's too late. Think about what it was that made you love him in the first place, and make sure that doesn't exist anymore. Good luck to you and your husband.
2006-09-11 06:41:46 · answer #2 · answered by Cynthia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to say it.
File.
Have him served.
He'll have a certain period of time in which he is supposed to respond.
He can contest it. In Florida, if one spouse contests the divorce and wants to remain married a judge can send you to court appointed counseling, but this is rare, and basically only slows the process down.
If your husband doesn't want a divorce, and you are certain that you do, my advice is move quick.
Your husband will go through a whole range of emotions.
Similar to mourning a death.
When he gets to the anger part, it usually ends up playing out as spite, and revenge, and he'll likely try to use the divorce proceedings to get at you. So get it done ASAP.
2006-09-11 06:37:40 · answer #3 · answered by niffer's mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is always a difficult situation but shud be done amically as possible if children r invovled! if he completely refuses 2 1 then im afraid the only way u can do this is by taking him 2 court. obviously everything will be divided as equally as possible. if he is the type 2 make this process as difficult as he can then ur going 2 have 2 perpare urself 4 several months of court hearings. i suggest u get in touch with a gd lawyer as soon as u can as the more time u have 2 prepare 4 it the better u will finish off in the end.
2006-09-11 06:29:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact a divorce lawyer and have divorce papers served on your husband. That will give him the hint that you want a divorce. I suspect that he already knows how you feel.
2006-09-11 06:31:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was in your place I would just have to be honest. If you're not happy then let him know. If not then it could be bad for both of you because no one wants to be married to someone who doesnt really want to be with them.
I can't tell you specifically how to do it because I dontknow you or your husband but I can tell you that the best policy is to be honest. You can't go wrong and who knows what can happen if lies start to come of it.
2006-09-11 06:31:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u should talk 2 him first and tell him the reasons y u want the divorce maybe u should go 2 counseling good luck
2006-09-11 06:37:54 · answer #7 · answered by ndemby05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard but that's usually how it goes, one wants it and the other doesn't. Sit him down and tell him you have something important to discuss with him. Explain you are going to file papers and proceed with the divorce, then just do it!
2006-09-11 06:35:31 · answer #8 · answered by sunnyca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I want a divorce" If there is another man, be prepared to tell him. Are you prepared to move out and have you got some place to go, a friend, a safe-house, or your own apartment? Do you have a way to support yourself? If you aren't prepared to move out, and cut ties, with no emotional remorse, then you're not ready to say goodbye.
2006-09-11 06:33:51 · answer #9 · answered by Mars 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure you can tell him when you both have privacy and no distractions. Tell him directly, no beating around the bush.
Be prepared! Have cash on hand and a bag in the car if things get ugly! He could cancel all the joint credit cards, etc.
2006-09-11 06:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋