My husband daily obsesses with the thought that I am going to cheat on him. It has gotten ridiculous, I have not cheated and have no intent to.
He will say dumb things when the phone rings like oh, maybe it is your boyfriend, or if I as much as help someone at work with a question and it is a man he comes completely unglued. He tells me it is not my job to help anyone and if they need something they can ask him.
It gets really old living with it day after day. I have told him he obsesses over this way too much but he tells me he does not obsess at all.
HELP
2006-09-11 06:25:11 · 30 answers · asked by Andrea T 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Usually people who obsess as he does might actually be doing the cheating himself. The logic is that if they are cheating then surely their spouse must be doing it to. Or he could be just plain old jealous of any other man and is trying to control who you talk too. Either way be careful.
2006-09-11 06:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by moma 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually that sounds like someone I'm related to. I don't know if you can do anything about it, my relative's wife has lived like this for 45 years now. It's something they have to deal with, maybe if you tell him this is a MAJOR issue for you, and that it's getting too difficult for you continue dealing with it he will seek some therapy. You can also tell him he knows he has nothing to worry about and you will not allow him to project his insecurities on you. The latter is what I did when I got married and my husband started acting extremely jealous. It worked. Good luck to you!
2006-09-11 06:36:27 · answer #2 · answered by Sonia Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would really make sure he is not cheating on you first - If you know he is not then think about it more. He obviously loves you and is scared that he could lose you. My husband is jealous also - and sometimes I get so mad about his comments. Talk to him he is insecure for some reason. Just reassure him that he is the only man you want to be with.
2006-09-11 06:31:25 · answer #3 · answered by LaDonna J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my Gosh! My husband is the same way. Especially with the thing when someone calls my phone... he always makes a comment "oh, is that your b/f".
He always says he is just joking. But I sat down with him and had a long chat about why I married him. I let him know that I wanted to be with him and only him, or I wouldn't have vowed to be his wife.
My husband went through a tramatic relationship just before we met. His best friend of 20 years had sex with his girlfriend.
I try to be a sympathetic to him as possible, but let him know that when he doesn't trust me it hurts my feelings. Not only is it annoying, but it makes me feel like he doesn't believe in me or my relationship.
It may take time, but you really need to have a long discussion about how it places stress on you and your marriage when he is not trusting of you.
2006-09-11 06:29:56 · answer #4 · answered by MzHazelnut22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him his behaviour is taking its toll on your nerves. Why is he so insecure? He needs some serious counseling! Usually people like this are actually the ones doing the cheating OR they drive a faithful spouse to cheat, because if you are continuously going to be accused of it, you get sick of it and go ahead and do it!
2006-09-11 06:28:49 · answer #5 · answered by AsianPersuasion :) 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously insecure when it comes to your relationship. Do you have any ideas why he might be feeling the way he does? Has he had a bad experience in a previous relationship? Do you spend adequate time with him? If he continues behaving that way, I think counselling may be the best answer. Good luck.
2006-09-11 06:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's the cheater...sometimes it works that way when he's accusing you. Anyway, just tell him its insulting for him to say that to you. Your his wife not a wh*re from the street. If he thinks that of you, then why is he still with you? Sorry to say this but your man must not be very good looking to feel that way and maybe he feels threatened.
2006-09-11 06:30:45 · answer #7 · answered by ♪♫♫♪ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely he has been cheated on in the past and its been really hard for him to trust someone, even if you assure him always that you'll never cheat. What he needs to do is realize that his actions are immature and that he needs to trust you, no matter what.
2006-09-11 06:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Email me, mine is the same...oh wait not so much anymore as I have lost all my friends because of it. Really email me. I have put up with that **** for 3 years almost, they never stop. If you left him he would do it to the next girl. I am only 25 and have a kid with this loser of a man. We could talk.
2006-09-11 06:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must be a great catch, for him....and he knows it. He worries that youll find someone else. It sounds like hes insecure with HIMSELF maybe. Youre probly a hot wife....he knows it, and he sees ppl look at you. Hes worried and thats why he obsesses....unless you really have cheated.
2006-09-11 06:29:27 · answer #10 · answered by ~~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋