my boyfriend watched porn and masterbates and it hurts me knowing the fact that he does it when i am not around. it hurts knowing he would rather watch that than be with me what should i do?
2006-09-11 06:10:56 · 44 answers · asked by Ruth 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Leave him. He's not dedicated to you, and will cheat if given the chance.
2006-09-11 06:13:18 · answer #1 · answered by Privratnik 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honestly every guy does it. And if they tell you they dont then that's a lie. I dont know what it is about masturbation but apparently they have the need to do it and yes it hurts. I have been down that road. It's nothing against you. But it's better that he does it and you not know about it because if you knew everytime he did it you would be hurt and sad all day. It's hard but that's what guys do and you cant change that part of them. So if I was you, well i was you when mer and my husband were dating. In my case I just didnt want to know about it. As long as i didnt know then how would i even know he was doing it. So it was out of my head and mind once we made an agreement that it wouldnt interfere with our relationship. And here we are 3 years later, married and parents.
2006-09-11 06:16:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give him a hand!
;-)
But seriously.....the fact that he masturbates while watching porn doesn't mean that he loves you any less, or that he wants someone else. Unless they've got something severely bent out of shape in their heads, all guys would prefer to have a willing partner. Porn and masturbation are just instant gratification -- low maintenance, no complications, pure and simple.
As to what to do about it.....have you tried looking for some sort of erotic film the two of you might enjoy together? You just might surprise yourself, if you give it a chance....
2006-09-11 06:12:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It may have nothing to do with not wanting to be with you. Maybe the urge strikes and it is there. Or maybe he has some porn addiction. But I don't think it has anything to do with you. Have you tried incorporating the porn into your sex life? Have you talk to him about it hurting your feelings? He needs to know how you feel about it. Once you tell him about it and how he responds, you will need to make a decision on what you do. But you need to give him an opportunity to know your feelings and respond to them.
2006-09-11 06:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by loladoreen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It shouldn't hurt your feelings. In all honesty, it has nothing to do with you. It's just something guys do. What should ya do? How about join him. There is nothing wrong with porn or masturbating and it can be very fun if you do them together (with each other). Try it at least once. You might be surprised.
2006-09-11 06:16:36 · answer #5 · answered by T.G. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My answer is a free gift for you:
Step One, leaving emotions out of it, seriously ask yourself the question, "My bf loves me 100%, if this is true, is there anything morally wrong with him watching porn or thinking about doing other girls, or even fantasizing about my friends, or is it just natural and of no harm?"
Step Two, remind yourself, If I don't interest him or excite him, would he be with me?
Step Three, ask yourself if you see guys on the street that you would be turned on by if you imagined giving them a bj.
Open your mind and don't be hung up on sex. Sex is supposed to be fun. ANything freaky he wants to do, either do it, or consider doing it
2006-09-11 06:15:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Watch porn with him. Its ok that he does masterbate without you. Some men get more satisfaction with there right hand. But hey thats ok.
2006-09-11 06:19:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First how do you know he does it if your not around? And if he told you he does that then he is giving you a hint that he needs some action. And at that point you need to take some action. But then there are those guys that can't get sexually satisfied just like women and need some extra to get what they crave for
2006-09-11 06:13:40 · answer #8 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be with a person that was into things you aren't - I doubt he will change
not all guys are into porn, so find someone who wants to do the same things you do
2006-09-11 06:13:08 · answer #9 · answered by bregweidd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like porn. That's the way we're made. Get over it, or go find yourself one of those fake men who are really nothing more than women with *****. Grow up!!!!!!
2006-09-11 08:02:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join in.
Talk to him about it.
If he lies about it now...he always will...consider this before making long term plans with him. If he lies about this...he will lie about other things too.
If you aren't around then how do you know he would rather do that than be with you? If this is truly the case, sounds like he would rather be solo. I would cut my losses.
2006-09-11 06:15:24 · answer #11 · answered by Angelfood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋