OK this is my situation I am currently living in tn I moved here a year ago from new orleans because of katrina .since then me and my husband have spilt and are going thru a div. I have two small children also. Now I have NO friends or family here . and am finaclly criplted b/c ,y husband doesnt not help in any kinda waye i live but i have no one to count on if something would happen to me or i can go home live with my mom which i dont really get along with (when we live together) and be surronded by people i love and love me and live in a hell hole b/c its not thesame anymore Please someone help me !!! i cant decied and this is not only going to effect my life but my kids as well!! thank u guys!!
2006-09-11 05:57:30 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well I am working and me and my husband have been split since april he has not payed me a dime and yes we have try counseling twice. He has a drug and alchol problem and i have done nothing more than be a good wife to him and have supported him hes tried to stay sober but he always falls back we remain friends for the kids or try to but even still i just cant do this alone anymore and like i said i dont have any support system here but living with my mom is hell she tries to rule my life and how i raise my kids she treats me like im still 15!!
2006-09-11 07:20:06 · update #1
Hmmm it sounds like you have a real problem though its not as bad
as it seems you just have to look at it from a rational perspective. Where you are now is hostile and unsupportive which in that case to change this you may have to put up with less support from your mother but much more from your friends then you can move out and live in your own waye!!
2006-09-11 06:07:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am truly sorry that this devastation has happen to you regarding Katrina(hurricane). From what i have read regarding this situation you are going through a rough time right now financially and emotionally. You have two precious children that needs your support. I know you and your husband have split. Try to get child support for your childrens, they need things just like you do. If you aren't working, try finding you a job, take your kids with you remember you have no friends or family. Tell the employer about your situation that you had noone to look after your kids, and that it is very important for you to find employment. But on the other hand, if you are working see can u get help from your state social services to help you out until you get on your feet.Whatever you do "Never give Up"
2006-09-11 06:10:41 · answer #2 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think at this point counseling might help. was there problems with you and your husband before? I have found that most family and friends try to give advise but most of it is not good, for now go where you can get a job get settled, get the kids a life try to be connected with your husband if your problems aren't abusive. for now just try to take care of the main obvious things the others can be sorted out in time. So take a deep breathe clear your thoughts.
2006-09-11 06:05:31 · answer #3 · answered by g-day mate 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seek couseling so that you can at least force alimony or any kind of support from your hunbad for your kids..
Then you can go back to your mom,, even if you do not get along with, at least she is your mom,, better her not liking rather than other people.
Then, from there, you can pick up your life again from scratch,, or until you can find a suitable job for you, before trying to move on again.
You can always try to explain your situation to your kids..Kids now a days can easily understand..
Good luck
2006-09-11 06:04:42 · answer #4 · answered by yulnores 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your husband is making any type of money-take his *** to court to make him take care of his babies! Do you have skills that will allow you to take a job where you can provide for yourself and your children? Focus on what your needs are and what you can do to make a way. If you believe in GOD, pray! Put him first, and pray often! Your situation will change for the better, you just have to trust that. It doesn't seem like you need to go back. What are you going back to? Show your children how to plant new roots, new family traditions, new friends, a new life. And check on what local resources you have in your area. Someone will know someone who could help you change your life. Good Luck & GOD Bless!!!
2006-09-11 06:11:16 · answer #5 · answered by dct1218 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to postpone ur divorce and have a sit down w/ur husband.. u's need to discuss ur family (kids).. if he leaves it's obvious that ur life and there's will go even more downhill as far as having a place to stay and food to eat, u know the necessities.. i'd ask him to stay until u can get on ur feet.. and if he says not then ask him how much $$ does he plan on giving u every month so that ur able to provide for his children.....
if worse comes to worse then u need to move back w/ur moms until u can get on ur feet...
2006-09-11 06:03:45 · answer #6 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUst because u and Mon dont get along dosnt mean she dont love you.so its a personality thing so learn to give a lot and learn how to unstand your moms ways and except them .and just say well thats just her personality.and not take everything so personal.
2006-09-11 06:08:57 · answer #7 · answered by jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
divorce him n ask for a large alimony.good luck.
2006-09-11 06:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by naturelover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋