they are total opposites. neither applies to me, i hope, but i have often judged others in this way which is wrong. why are such opposite traits so similar in action?
2006-09-11 05:46:26 · 20 answers · asked by Summer Rain 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Other - Entertainment
Sometimes people just can't tell WHY a person won't talk to anyone. They might think the person just doesn't like the people they're around and really the person is just shy.
2006-09-11 05:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by hslayer 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
For me I have also confused shyness with arrogance or more like did'nt tolerate it. The way I see it people who are dreadfully shy can come off as not interested in participating and it's easy to feel the person simply cant be bothered note to self: give shy people a chance next time before judgment
2006-09-11 07:59:42 · answer #2 · answered by . 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people mistake shyness for arrogance because people who suffer from shyness tend to avoid eye contact and more than often seem arrogant by doing so.
2006-09-11 05:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by devilish 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's amazing how many times I've gotten the comments, "When I first met you, I thought you were an a**hole" or something similar.
Though not entirely shy, I do tend to not say much (especially around new people) until I can get an idea on what the people are about, what type of person they are.
I agree, the assumption of arrogance or snobbiness due to lack of social interaction with a lot of people.
I wouldn't worry about it too much though, there really isn't anything that can be done about it. People will be people.
2006-09-11 06:13:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you say that even you have misjudged people for this so you probably have a good idea. If a person is shy, they avoid talking to people or looking at them for fear of having to speak. An arrogant person avoids talking and looking at people because they don't deem the other person worth it. If there's no difference in facial expression in a glance toward the person who's being avoided, how can a person tell what's going on in their head?
I was accused of this all the way through school because I had zero confidence. Now no one can shut me up!
2006-09-11 06:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by Iknowsomestuff 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess it's because nobody can tell what the other person is actualy thinking, their reluctance to speak or even look at others can be confused between the two. It's happened to me, my shyness has been confused for arrogance, rebbeliousness, gaynessm, scared...what you will. But i understand why others can't tell the difference.
2006-09-11 05:52:01 · answer #6 · answered by rbsb1999 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I can see where the confusion lies. If you ask an arrogant person why they won't talk, they will tell you. If you ask a shy person, they usually will apologize. Better to ask and find out, rather than judge without knowing. I always assume that a person is shy until I find out differently.
2006-09-11 05:54:29 · answer #7 · answered by mightymite1957 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess because no one takes the time to talk to each-other they just assume the shy person is arrogant because he or she doesn't usually speak to them. I was shy as a child and teen it was painful to talk or meet someone new. I didn't know till years later that the other kids thought I was arrogant. Too many years wasted, now I greet everyone.
2006-09-11 05:56:52 · answer #8 · answered by need2knw 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I see shyness confused with stuck up. To me arrogance is very obvious because it is usually expressed verbally.
2006-09-11 05:51:26 · answer #9 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a social person, but at times I catch myself rambling and talking too fast. Try practicing in front of a mirror, or just getting used to the way it feels of speaking slowly all the time. Don't go overboard but just to where the conversation can be good and you'll understand yourself too.
2016-03-17 12:26:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋