When my son goes and visits his father. The father makes his 14 yr. old daughter bathe my son. I have told my ex that my son can bathe himself, but he wont let him. What should I do? Is this ok for a 14yr old to bathe a 7 yr old? I have no problem with my ex's daughter. I just think she shouldnt bathe my son when he knows how to do this.
2006-09-11 05:43:38 · 13 answers · asked by Kathy S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You have the right to ask you ex to stop his daughter from bathing your 7 yr old son. He should discontinue the action or let him know that you will deny your son's visits as long as he returns home informing you of your request being ignored. Your ex would have to go through an attorney to change this reaction on your part and he may not want to go that far to put a stop to something so simple from his rebelling ways.
2006-09-11 06:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by msthinkpositive 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though your ex is treating your seven yr old as if he's still 5. Even though you've told him he's old enough to do it himself, chances are you ex still believes he needs some help. I have an 8 yr old. He is fully capable of bathing himself and will often take showers, but if I throw him in the tub with his 5 yr old brother to save time, I'll wash him up out of habit. Why not suggest to your ex that he should watch your son bath once just to prove that he can do it properly on his own. If he sees it, then he probably won't be asking the daughter to help out. She'll probably even be relieved. Not too many teenagers are crazy about helping out their younger brothers.
2006-09-11 05:55:28 · answer #2 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I would have a problem with it, too. Can your ex not give him a bath. I think that 6 is too young to have a child bathe themselves. I mean, my daughter is 5 and she does a pretty good job, but i never leave her side when she's in the bathtub. I don't think that it is necessary for the 14 year old to have to touch him in any way at all. He is old enough to wash himself, and I would be p*ss*d off about it, too. I don't know what to tell you to do, but you better do something because obviously your ex thinks it's no big deal.
2006-09-11 05:51:50 · answer #3 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right he shouldn't be made to bathe with the 14 year old....
1..He is old enough to bathe himself
2..She is at the age where she is developing and it probably embarrasses her
3..Tell your ex that the girl is too old to bathe with your son
2006-09-11 05:53:50 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think that my son is too old too........I have a 7 year old adopted brother who is helpless because of my parents, they make my 12 year old sister do everything for him, includin giving him a bath..........i think it is sickening cause this kid is capable.....but I think men are different, they always think that their kids are helpless......ask your son to tell his daddy that he is a big boy now and that he wants to give himslef a bath.....if not and you still feel comfortable I would call a social worker, just to get an opinion.......and see what they think and then talk to him again.......and it it doesn't stop then I guess report him......not sure how that would work.....
2006-09-11 05:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well most 7 year olds can speak for themselves - ask your son if he minds then if he does then tell his daughter that your son does not want to be bathed but if your son has no objections and its clearly innocent then let them be they are still kids after all and she is probably unaware of how strange this is. so leave it for now - unless you sense discomfort from your son.
Good luck
2006-09-11 06:00:31 · answer #6 · answered by candystore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-07 02:46:39 · answer #7 · answered by hartzell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he might be some sick dude getting his rocks off on watching a child bathe another child. Deny visitation on grounds of abuse. You will recieve no punishment for it, and if he withholds child support he can go to jail.
2006-09-11 05:48:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He might worry your son will drown or something. But she shouldn't be actually washing him unless he needs help rinsing his hair or something.
2006-09-11 05:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by empress_pam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your son should be allowed his privacy; if he asks for it, the dad should honor it.
2006-09-11 05:51:15 · answer #10 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋