I don't think she's doing anything but why is she emailing other ppl.she says she's happy and doesn't want anybody else but then why is she looking for other ppl to talk to?i checked her email without her knowing was that wrong?
2006-09-11 05:41:09 · 32 answers · asked by Wendel T 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the emails are to other men.She said in one "too bad your too young and i'm married.'
2006-09-11 05:47:53 · update #1
well,dont be so judgemental......talk to her if you think you are not able to trust her on this and yes its very wrong for you to check her mails without her knowledge...if she was doing something wrong and wanted to hide from you she would rather do it from a different account about which you arent aware,but she hasnt done any such thing and theres nothing wrong in making friends!!just becos shes married to you doesnt mean she should stop living!!
2006-09-11 06:20:24 · answer #1 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First, did you check her email hoping to find something? Or has she been acting different and you were trying to confirm something?
Second, if my other half checked my mail he wouldn't find anything that I would have to hide or want to hide from him in the first place. Email and the Internet is sometimes a women's way of talking to someone with no hopes that the questions that we ask will get back to the person we are asking them about. I find myself sometimes emailing guy friends when my other half has done something that I don't know why he has done. They give me the guys perspective of the situation cuz it is hard to stand outside of your relationship.
Third, if you feel guilty you read her email you might need to let her know but not while your angry.
Honestly hon, I don't think you have a thing to worry about... I believe if she says she loves you then that is the truth and she is only talking to these other men for either friendship or asking them questions when she is not sure why or why u don't do things.
Hope that helps!!!
2006-09-11 05:49:53 · answer #2 · answered by Redneck Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know people tell you all day long that you shouldn't check up on your mate but obviously you have been feeling neglected or like something is missing other wise you wouldn't have checked at all. I do agree with some people saying it may just be harmless smack talking to other guys just to blow off steam. If she has exchanged phone numbers or asked for them then i would be concerned. What i would do if you think so far it is harmless take her out on a date like you used to do when you first meet and treat her special cause she may think your not showing her the attention she needs even if you think you are giving it to her. But do beware checking on someone because you have a suspicion about what they may or may not be doing could lead you strait to an answer you may not want to know. Ether way make her forget about those other guys and think about you.
2006-09-11 06:02:19 · answer #3 · answered by weasel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st of all it was wrong of u 2 check her mail. but under the circumstances it was a gd thing u did. i reckon u shud sit her down and just b honest with her that u looked threw her mail and came across somethings that were hurtful and contemplating ur "happy" relationship. ask her y she feels the need 2 find new friends on the net and wot u can do to make the relationship stronger so that it is a more solid marriage, then hopefully u wont have 2 check her mail in the future!
2006-09-11 05:47:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a married man, sorry, however, I will say yes, it was wrong to check her email. Would you want her snooping into your private email or other private things? What's wrong with emailing other people....it's fun, like having pen pals all over the world, as long as she's not having email sex then don't worry about it.
2006-09-11 05:45:23 · answer #5 · answered by deepadot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there was not any bad things in the emails she sent then you have nothing to worry about. I talk to gals all the time and my wife knows about it but she doesn't get all in a huff about it. And yes I think it is wrong for you to be checking her email out.
2006-09-11 05:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no idont think u were wrong at all.. trust is d base 4 a successful marriage.. n dats y i guess u ppl share ur passwords.. but i guess u shud put it out 2 her indirectly, in a decent matter.. n find out if she has 2 say something.. may b ur wife is not really wrong.. u never know till u two have a good talk.. n if u still find sumthing fishy then keep a check on her n her net-activities.. if she is really at fault.. then u arn't at fault too by spying on her..so just go ahead n Good Luck. :-)
2006-09-11 05:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should be more specific on what exactly u found and what she discusses in her emails because it all depends. its fine for her to talk to others as long as the emails dont include something she shouldnt be talking about with other men...
and yes its not right to be checking her emails behind her back, but then again id prob do the same.. lol
2006-09-11 05:45:00 · answer #8 · answered by DevilsKitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is talking to and e-mailing other men on the Internet it might be innocent, but if she has gone thru dating/singles sites to find these men to talk with and is presenting herself to them as single and looking or married and looking to cheat...you have a problem. There had to be a reason that you checked her e-mail in the first place. Something made you suspicious...If she's on the single sites, she's cheating and you have to decide if you're going to let her get away with it or if you deserve better than to be cheated on and divorce her and find someone who will love you and have enough respect for you and your vows of matrimony not to cheat on you.
2006-09-11 05:51:24 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess it depends what she is emailing about. Nothing wrong with talking to other people, she can just as easily be discussing things with friends at lunch as well you just have no way of knowing it. It was wrong to peek into her email unless you had other suspicions or proof of her doing things.
2006-09-11 05:47:21 · answer #10 · answered by JoeP 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋