I am 6 weeks pregnant. I took a week before I told the father. During that time I picked two names I really love, One for a boy (Christian Philip) and one for a girl (Lily Renee) when the father found out about the baby he decided he wanted to help name the babies and that he didn't like the names. Is it selfish of me to be mad about it and want to keep the names I chose? this is his 3rd child and it is my first.....part of me feels like i'm selfish........but I'm so attached to the names already......Please no rude comments just genuine thoughts.
2006-09-11 05:37:01 · 35 answers · asked by sweetbabygirlof1983 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i am not a single mother we are raising this baby together so thanks suzi for assuming.
2006-09-11 05:43:42 · update #1
maybe it is pretty selfish.....I could let him name the boy and me name the girl.....compromise sucks though. oh well
2006-09-11 05:49:47 · update #2
Honestly... you are only six weeks.. you will probably change your mind a dozen times before the baby is born..
It is a little selfish.. but you are somewhat entitled to be that way.. but really.. don't you think he should have some say? Maybe you should let him give you some ideas.. if he is supportive through your pregnancy you can meet him halfway with the name thing.. but if he is not.. then screw him.. Name the baby whatever you want..
Good luck to you..
2006-09-11 05:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by Legs 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is selfish and it isn't. I'm the same way though. I have names picked out but I'm letting him chose which ones he likes. But I think that if the guy is going to be a part of your life then you should let him help pick out names. Write down 5 names that you like and 5 names that he likes. Go through the names together and a name you like could be a first name and a name he likes can be a middle name or vise versa. That's what my parents did and that's what i'm doing. If he's not going to be with you then you can name your child whatever you like. Good Luck!!! : O )
2006-09-11 05:48:45 · answer #2 · answered by adidasgurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both the parents...you should both have equal say in this. Besides, if you can't agree to compromise about this, how are you going to compromise about the things that really matter??
Don't be so selfish. Ask him for input, and try using one of the names that you like. Like, if he likes Chris or Christopher but not Christian, maybe use Chris Philip. Or let him pick a name and add one of your choices to it. Figure out a compromise. You never know, he may come up with one you like even better.
2006-09-11 05:43:38 · answer #3 · answered by jimvalentinojr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the father is going to be there for you (while you are pregnant) and the baby then i would say that you're being a little selfish. I'm 8 months pregnant and like the name Jacob and my guy said no so i feel how you would be mad. But this is our first
2006-09-11 05:42:55 · answer #4 · answered by britt3m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I know it's hard not to go with a name that you want....but to be completely honest.... you still may change your mind. I am at 20 weeks and although I have a few favorites I still occasionally find more I like. Since the father is going to be involved and does have a say then why don't you guys get a baby name book and see if you can come up with alternative names that you both agree on? My husband and I wanted a name that meant something to us...since we got married in Vegas we thought that something that reminded us of our wedding would be great.... we tossed around all kinds of crazy names like: Newton, Elvis, Vegas, etc.... and I came up with Sahara since we stayed at the sahara Hotel and got married in a little chapel right across the street..... maybe you could find something for the 2 of you......
2006-09-11 06:16:27 · answer #5 · answered by jachooz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one except the both of you can truly say if it is a selfish act; however, there is no relevance that he has two children as to if he should be able to name the baby. This baby was made with the both of you and should have a name chosen by the both of you. But that is simply my opinion. Congratulations on the baby.. Actually there will be way bigger disagreements down the line. A baby's name is very important but is it worth the stress?
2006-09-11 05:44:14 · answer #6 · answered by Let Love be the Reason 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My guy and I compromised. I got the first names and he got the middle names. That worked until I wanted to change the name I picked for the girl. Why don't you try hearing him out? You may really like what he picked. It could be you will like it better or change your mind completely. You could end up combining one of his picks with one of yours. With my daughter, I was looking for names up until the day I delivered even though I had fallen in love with a name months before. Give it some time.
2006-09-11 09:51:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you want a man's perspective, I certainly wouldn't have been too happy if my wife had not wanted to give me any input into naming my children. But from reading your question, I'm assuming that you're not married to the father, so I guess my answer would depend on what kind of relationship you want to have with him, and you want him to have with his child. If you're planning on raising this baby by yourself, then do whatever you want to do. If you want him to be a partner, then you need to be a partner too. Which means giving him some say in the important decisions that you have coming up. If you're going to be this closed minded about something like naming the child, how will you be when it comes to making much more important decisions?
2006-09-11 05:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by astrosfan57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe a little selfish but what you can do is for you to pick on of each name the one you love the most one for boy one for girl then let him decide on the second name, but just remember it will be a name that both of you will have to decide on & will be your baby name for the rest of his/ her life... Don't argue about it just make a good desition about your baby's name but let him get involved on names , clothes and all the things you both will be sharing with this baby ... he will feel good to be part of this happines ...GOOD LUCK & by the way I like the name Christian & Renee
2006-09-11 05:48:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand and appriciate your dilema. With my first son my ex wanted to name him after his fave video game character! I was like NO! So I named him what I wanted to name him which was a strong name that I really loved and everyone else liked too. So he was all mad at me for not letting him in on the decision.
With my second child I thought I was having a girl so I had my name set on a girl name that my mother absolutly hated. But my ultrasound revealed a surprise and I was having a boy, so we hit the nameing books (as a family with my husband involved too) and we came up with a name that we all loved! So everyone was happy. I am all about letting everyone help, but just make sure that the name you pick is one that you can live with forever. And dont feel pressured to name the child a name that you dont like. Understanding the reason behind giving a child a specific name helps. I remember in elementary school when they asked us to research how we got our name. I wanted my boys to know that I chose strong names for them based on my familys Irish/Scottish culture.
2006-09-11 05:51:57 · answer #10 · answered by Jennifer G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋