My wife's family is very protective. I don't have family so we spend 100% of the time with them. The only time we fight is when we are with her family. They side with her when we have an issue. My wife sides with her family when I have an issue. I guess they are all just trying to be protective but it backs me into a wall and I get defensive. I guess my only option is to keep this in mind when I speak but I am outgoing and tend to speak with whatever is on my mind. No idea how to approach this other than asking my wife for her to support me.
2006-09-11 05:28:30 · 16 answers · asked by JJP 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfortunately in a situation such as this you will have to change your behavior. She is obviously very close to her family and you will not be able to stop their bond. You can, however, not become defensive when someone provokes you. Laugh it off and just make a conscious decision that you are going to get along with these people because you love your wife.
I have the in-laws from hell and I can honestly say I have never been treated so poorly by any group of people in my life. They are just rude self-centered people. I don't fight with them tho. I smile and keep my opinions to myself and just don't cause any problems. They are after all my husband's family and he wants a relationship with them so I just ignore their bad manners and refuse to get caught up in their drama. Sometimes it is hard, but it keeps the peace at home and that is worth a little extra effort on my part.
2006-09-11 05:42:24 · answer #1 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Arguments between married couples should stay between married couples. You married her not the rest of her family. She married you, it's time that she moves on and grows up a little. Marriage isn't playground stuff. Sit down and explain to your wife how this makes you feel stuck against a wall. Also, maybe you are overly sensative to this since you don't have family of your own. Either way, just talk to her and see how things go. If that doesn't work, suggest counseling for both of you. Good luck!
2006-09-11 05:41:51 · answer #2 · answered by gemm77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried talking with your wife about the issue without your in laws around? Explain that it is bothering you and that you want to be able to enjoy your time with her at your in laws. One warning is that it takes teamwork and support to stop this problem. Without her support and understanding, the cycle will keep repeating. Also, some parents tend to be a bit more protective of their daughters than sons.
2006-09-11 05:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real problem here is that your in laws are putting their two cents in where it doesn't belong. IN an argument between you and your spouse, NOONE has any right to get involved UNLESS both YOU and YOUR spouse ask them for their opinion first. If they get involved feel free to tell them in no uncertain terms to butt out. If they refuse be as rude as you want. If they get upset that you were rude to them, tell them It is the height of rudeness and indecency to come between a man and his wife and you have every right to treat them any way you want in order to prevent their incredible lack of decency
2006-09-11 05:43:32 · answer #4 · answered by david k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-07 02:44:47 · answer #5 · answered by hartzell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont discuss anything that may cause an arguement in front of her family. If she tries to start up a discussion or arguement in front of her family say "i will not discuss that here. We can discuss it at home alone." And keep repeating that until she shuts up.
2006-09-11 07:10:47 · answer #6 · answered by Educated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your issues should stay between you and your wife..Her family needs to stay out of it...and she needs to tell them that they need to keep their opinions to themselves..Your marriage isn't going to last unless you are able to live it by yourselves,
If you make mistakes oh well that is how we learn
2006-09-11 05:47:56 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been through the same thing but only with my husband's family my husband and my family get along great but I never got along with his people his mom and step dad always tried to cause us trouble his mom was always the worse though she would always tell people she hoped we would get a divorce or tell lies to me and my husband to stir trouble up it got so bad because of all the trouble they would cause my husband and I started arguing alot and we never would get along so my husband and I got sick and tired of everything and we finally told them it would be best if we would all just stay away from eachother since we all didn't get along if something is going to screw with your marriage stay away from it nothing is worth screwing up your marriage not even in laws ever since we all have stayed away from eachother my husband and I have been getting along fine when you get married you marry the one you love you don't marry the family you forsake all others don't let anyone or anything come between your marriage I didn't let my husband's family screw us up I suggest you don't let your in laws screws yours up either
2006-09-11 05:48:40 · answer #8 · answered by blondeqtwitanicebooty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will not work out for a long time.one day your wife will realise how true you were and will definitely support you and subsequently the others will follow.you dont lose your patience and try to be cool.
2006-09-11 05:46:21 · answer #9 · answered by toliagoldstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its best to explain and talk about it openly with ur wife, if she loves u and cares for ur feelings she will reduce her going there or tell her parents to b out from interfearing.dont strain ur relations for anyone, anyone means any one.all the best
2006-09-11 15:40:51 · answer #10 · answered by misty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋