Ok...so here's the thing....I'm gonna be 20 in less than 6 months and I'm in love with my high school sweetheart and have been for a good while. I'm dating him Again* (We broke up back in Jan. b/c of our parents and it was just hell) Well we got back together and his parents hate me and mine hate him. BIG happy family...right?! Well...Last monday I sent him a text saying we're done b/c 1..he pissed me off b/c while I was sick like major he never called! and 2..parents would be happy. Well I messed up trying to please my parents again instead of thinking bout me first...its my relationship...do it for me not them right? Wel...I spent all day yesterday with him and he apollogized and it was like we never broke up (even 4 a week). Well my problem is...how do I tell my parents that ummm 'hey! guess what! i'm still dating mike!' When I know they're going to hate me. I don't know what to do. Please help me...I'm so frustrated and I'm get'n nowhere fast!
2006-09-11 05:27:23 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, yes I would agree think about yourself first, but then again, think about why your parents dont like him. There has to be some reason that your leaving out. Hes not responsible? Doesnt make you happy?
I thought the same thing when I dated this one guy, my parents did not like him and I didnt care what they thought, but I still dated him. Then I realized the kind of person he was and now i think back...what did I see in this guy?
2006-09-11 05:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're an adult now, so its time to cut the strings and live for yourselves. Parents will either get over it and accept the fact that you're happy. If they don't, then set limits right away and let them know that your relationship or anything to do with it is off limits to discussion. If they can't respect that, then either hang up the phone or leave. They'll figure out that you are serious about the choices you're making.
2006-09-11 05:32:56 · answer #2 · answered by spunkyshell2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got it right, it is not your parents relationship. If you are happy that is all that should matter. My parents disapprove, and flat out don't like my ex-boyfriend, and we have a child together. All that should matter to either one of you is that you are happy. Let your parents hate who they want. It doesn't matter. They might eventually realize this or not, who knows. They might think that they are doing what is best for you, because they don't understand that you are old enough to make you own decisions.
Good Luck.
2006-09-11 05:32:45 · answer #3 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you all sit together and discuss this. My guess is your parents don't know Mike like you do and only have their perceptions on him. If you really love him and he loves you you will try to get both sets of parents to understand how much you mean to each other.
2006-09-11 05:33:23 · answer #4 · answered by Mark S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look , you are old enough to know who you want and if that is your boyfreind Mike then so be it..Your parents are hurt but they will get over it..All they want is for you to be happy..but They aren't the ones who will be living with Mike ...you are ..You go with your heart and your parents will come around
2006-09-11 05:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
like you said its your choice they can either accept or not why do you even have to mention who you are dating to the many why if you can afford to move out and get your own place you and mike that why you 2 will not have any problems and your parents cant say a thing
2006-09-11 05:33:22 · answer #6 · answered by teresa d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok parents are strange - but even though they are unreasonable its because they love you .
walk up to them - make sure you are standing up - and say
listern mom and dad i love you more then anything that is why i am so shocked and torn up inside as you two do not think of my happiness, i am not saying i will be with mike forever but i am asking you to accept that i am happy with him for now. if things do not change and if you do not give us a chance i am afraid i will have to choose my happiness over this. And my choice will be final. i love you but i want you to support me not shut me down'
if you want to reherse it go ahead. be strong make sure you are standing and not sitting as this makes them listern to you more. your parents are just scared that their little girl is growing up and they have their own opinions on how you should live your life because you are their child . but make it clear that life would have been a nightmare for them had their mom and dads done this to them . make them sit down and think of you as an adult not achild. stay away from arguments and if one irises from this say ' you know what i am getting too old to try please you , so if you want me to go tell me ' trust me they dont . so be strong they will have to accept mike .
good luck
2006-09-11 05:49:55 · answer #7 · answered by candystore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have alot on your hands between a relationship with your high school sweetheart and immature parents.
First off, you and you sweetheart need to sit down and SERIOUSLY talk things over. What if you decide to get married one day and you keep breaking up like this? Plan on what you and your sweetheart want to do. Do you want to stay in a realtionship, or do you want to be friends? You need to not worry about your parents! Like Will Smith said on an old song, "Parents Just Dont Understand". Your parents and his parents need to stay out of ya'll bizness-im not saying that in a bad way- but you have to learn how do deal with relationships on your own without their interference and sarcasm. They dont realize that its hurting you and him. They are making it complicated.
You both still love each other very much and you both have to deal with situations together as a team. Sounds corny, but the only way relationships work out is if you and you hunny bunny work things out with each other, and not against each other. Also, dont be in a relationship with him only to get at each other's parents, because you are only hurting yourself and each other. If you parents dont want you and Mike to be together, they will get over it. In relationships, couples are going to deal with arguments and small fights. My fiance pisses me off and vice versa!:) But i still love him for all of his faults and it goes the same for me. DONT EVER BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE YOU LOVE BECAUSE YOUR PARENTS HAVE NOTHING ELSE BETTER TO DO THAN MAKE YOUR LIFE MISERABLE!
You can work this out. If they dont understand that you and Mike love each other, then they got tha problem, na mean?! Do right for you and him, and vice versa. Even more so, if your parents ask you, "Are you still with that Mike character?" and you say, "Yeah. So? Why are you so pressed about it? Did he ever disrespect you? Iight then. Leave me and him alone." They have to let you grow and NOT keep you away from him. They have to be ADULTS about it, like you are. In turn, the parents are acting more childish! It is YOUR CHOICE, NOT THIERS. Sometimes parents make it seem like they are sooo perfect and like they dont argue with thier signifigant other...And i bet any cheez that your/his parents went against THIER parents wishes by being with someone THIER parents despised. No one is perfect. Love is and more power to you because you both have love, something that is very hard to come by. Wish you all the luck.
2006-09-11 05:49:20 · answer #8 · answered by nyc_ladydragonsamauri007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your parents that you really care about him. It's not like you are marrying the guy! But, were you really breaking up with him because of your parents? Maybe you should think about that for awhile.
2006-09-11 05:33:04 · answer #9 · answered by gemm77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no problem you are like sun shine a bove sky and don't worry am shore you are strong and you will crose this problem just be wise and know how to control your self as really you are very smart i feel that ok
2006-09-11 05:42:36 · answer #10 · answered by Hussain N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋