We're not officially broken up, but I kicked him out of my apartment with numerous warnings. He tells me that he's homesick and wants things to be like they used to be. He's even called me crying saying how much he misses me. I told him that there are specific things that he needs to change. For example, his lying got out of control. And he keeps befriending girls who fall inlove with him, but he swears they're just friends to him. He agrees to change, but makes no effort. What is his problem? If he wants things to be like they used to be, then why doesn't he go back to his cute, lovable, committed, reliable self? I know it's still in there somewhere. How long should I wait until I officially call it over?
2006-09-11 05:15:25 · 15 answers · asked by ☆skyblue 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i think u putting him out meant that it was officially over. he is only acting all sentimental because he is trying to manipulate you into taking him back, therefore giving him a comfortable place to stay. i know the type, they feed off women, like you are his mom or something. i dont think those girls are just friends. how can they fall in love without there being something more? he just agrees to change just to shut up-doing just so much for you to forgive him. if hes not showing the love then theres nothing more to do but drop his crazy @$$ and move on...
2006-09-11 05:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,First how many times have u been threw this with him and how many times has he said he would try or change.If u have done this really over 2 then its time to say enough is enough. And if this has been going on for some time like months or more then enough is enough.Sweetie.I have been there and i have done It and even made the mistake of loving to much and marrying the person and then it always falls back to the old bad habits.and u have to except u can't change people if they don't want to and DON'T FALL FOR I WILL MAKE THEM SHOW U FIRST.Cause it all could be just telling u what u want to hear and then when the are all comfortable it all starts again.Girl just call it over and move on to better things and people it's just not worth the heart ache and If he has all this friends as he calls them he may come home knowing or unknowingly and give u something u don't want and can't get rid of it does happen alot be careful
2006-09-11 12:29:34 · answer #2 · answered by motherof319662000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think kicking him out was big step and a good one well done . as far as his lying to you - remember a person must be treated like the way they want to be- so make it as simple to him as possible as long talk complicates things - remember you are speaking to a different sphecies after all. tell him i will treat you exactly like you treat me - then give him another chance , if he starts his stunts again treat him the same way - invite men around - even if they re just there to pretend and see how he feels when he sees that someone else can like you too and give you attention. at the end of the day relationships are hard and you have to try your best - but dont forget if you are your best and he is still not giving you 100% of him then kick back out for good, as you are worth more and you clearly have what it takes and are special - thats why he is crying.
so go on .. let your guard down on the simple conditions that you are not taking the madness anymore and are going to put your foot down should he continue to take you for granted.
good luck i know you can do it. not a lot of women can kick a man up and stand their ground like you did.
2006-09-11 12:26:31 · answer #3 · answered by candystore 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kicking him out should be official.
No relationship can ever go backward and work.
It is either forward or stop, no reverse. There are very few Bruce Willis's in this world and that is only when there are kids involved.
I think it is over now.
2006-09-11 14:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion you should call it off now, while he is out of your place. He is making no effort to change, as you said. Move on with your life. Liars are not good to be around. There are plenty of fish in the sea! I hope this helps.
2006-09-11 12:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by organic gardener 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have done kicked him out because you couldn't take it anymore so I think thats when you officially called it over!! Be done with him he's got too many issues,lying,other girls! You don't need the stress in your life. Stear clear of this one permanently. Stop answering his calls and don't let him in if he stops by,this guy has LOSER written all over him. Go and find yourself someone who's more deserving of you please!!!!
2006-09-11 12:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People act the way they do for one reason only ... THEY CAN. He will continue to act this way regardless of who he is with because as soon as one woman stops putting up with it he will just find another who is willing to put up with it. Do not be that woman... move on and thank your lucky stars that you did not marry this person.
2006-09-11 12:24:36 · answer #7 · answered by B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well u should meet up with him and talk it over and if he still doesnt wanna change then u can officially say bye
2006-09-11 12:21:19 · answer #8 · answered by roxassnake16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't accept that crap. He does not need to be having woman friends all over the place and if they are falling in love with him that means he is friends with vulnerable woman.
2006-09-11 12:28:29 · answer #9 · answered by 2strongfor2long 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call it over now. He was comfortable in the relationship and that's the reason why he wants to come back.
2006-09-11 12:28:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋