I feel like thats cheating..Too, am i not good enough for him?..He says he's open to that...I'm not comfortable with it, what should i tell him?
2006-09-11 05:09:59 · 33 answers · asked by bamababe762002 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Well, don't marry him, yet. Make sure he's done all he wants to do in the sexual field before you marry him, because if not, he will be open to having sex with any and everyone after you're married, the only thing is............you won't know anything about it. I hate guys sometimes.
2006-09-11 05:14:47 · answer #1 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He hasn't learned the age-old truth: While it may seem like a male's fantasy (himself and two girls), it almost always becomes a BIG problem when it does occur. The guy finds that he's become the "third" wheel in the relationship, and he can never look at his wife the same way ever again. many guys have discovered this the hard way.
It IS cheating. If this is truly the way he thinks and he's not just joking around, he won't stay faithful to you very long.
Incidentally, when you say he wants to have sex with "others", I'm assuming females. If not, you've got a whole pandora's box of other issues to deal with!
2006-09-11 05:17:14 · answer #2 · answered by The Truth Hurts! Ouch! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest and keep your eyes and ears open for clues as to what he really thinks. You need to find out if he is willing to settle down with one person. If he realistically is not able to do this, you need to find someone else to marry. I don't want to question the honesty of your fiancee, but some people might be tempted to get married to you anway (doesn't want to lose you) and then see someone on the side without your knowledge. That is why I say, trust your boyfriend if he has earned your trust, but watch his response to your answer carefully.
I think open relationships after getting married is fine if everyone agrees to it.
Also, it's not that you are not good enough for him. It's just that he wants variety in life. Kind of like even though you might love chocolate ice cream, occasionally you want to have strawberry or vanilla. It doesn't mean you love chocolate ice cream any less. You just want some variety in your life.
2006-09-11 05:18:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The truth, you are not open to that, you are not comfortable and that it makes you feel like he doesn't appreciate you.
Sure it is fine to have fantasies, but one thing is to fantasize and another is to try to get you to do things you don't want to do or don't like.
What's the point of getting married then? Where's the compromise?
If he wants to have sex with other women and let you have sex with other men then maybe its time to start looking the other way hon...
2006-09-11 05:18:13 · answer #4 · answered by White 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he feels this way before the marriage just think how bad it could get after a few years and he gets tired of the same old sex time and again (it happens in most marriages at one time or another) when that time comes he is going to push for it weather you like it or not. I do not think you two are sexually compatible and both of you should start looking in other directions.
2006-09-11 05:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by jusme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good thing he told you about his sexual preference,before you get married!. (Actually),it would be cheating,regardless if he thinks it's ok. In the eyes of God,it is cheating. (But) why would he ask you to do such a thing anyway?. My opinion?,DON'T GET MARRIED. He will expect you to perform threesomes,and if you don't he will most definetely find some other woman,who will!.
2006-09-11 05:17:41 · answer #6 · answered by Squeakers 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you think, personally I would dump him for just asking that. If he wants that kind of life their is no point in getting married. The idea of marriage is a union between two people.
2006-09-11 05:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by joeman_hulke 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least he is asking you before you are married instead of just cheating.
Be happy he is asking, but don't plan on marrying him cause you obviously gave him the wrong answer. He is probably looking for a bi-woman who is into swinging.
2006-09-11 06:07:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him that if that is what he wants then why get married? Why not stay single? Then tell him what you think marriage should be like cause it sounds like he doesn't know how you feel about marriage.
2006-09-11 05:19:38 · answer #9 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him one word -- "goodbye". If he wants to have sex with others after marriage, then he's not good enough for you, dear. Let him go sow his wild oats, and you find someone who loves only you, and that you can trust. Your bf wants to have his cake and eat it too. Let him choke on it. He's not marriage material, and will only bring you heartache.
2006-09-11 05:32:03 · answer #10 · answered by gldjns 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋