Regarding sex, what can I do? She's wild, but really passive, she wants me to do all the work, we've talked about it. Any advice, tips? I'm afraid that I'm not going to satisfy her like she wants to.
2006-09-11 05:06:20 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm somewhat insecure about this issue because supposedly her last gf was really good at pleasuring her.
2006-09-11 05:12:49 · update #1
What about your needs? This really sucks cause I hear it from too many chicks about having to do all the work. Shoot sometimes I just lay there and tell my GF its all about me, and vice versa. Sex should be about compromise and understanding what makes your other half feel good and feeling good about having sex. You know, you can only do the best you can do. I mean you can be extremely straped-on, a vibrator in each hand and 32 flavors of lube on the night stand and she might just say it's not enough. Then what? If she cares about you she would give 50-50. Love is not selfish and love is about giving and not receiving.
2006-09-11 16:16:41 · answer #1 · answered by cj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about not being such a pushover? She wants YOU to do all the work? Gosh, that seems selfish, clueless and oblivious. Why would you cater to that self-involved attitude? Sex, like a relationship is a two-way street or it doesn't work. If she's not willing to be an equal partner she's going to find herself all alone. You should let her know that you're not willing to the sole provider of sexual fulfillment in this relationship. Otherwise you're making yourself into a victim and it's pretty pathetic.
2006-09-11 12:49:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some night, get all romantic and ready to get into bed or whatever you normally do before sex, and then say to her in a sexy voice that you're going to try something different tonight. Then say either she can just lie there and tell you exactly what to do to her - then don't do anything, just sit there until she'll come out of her shell enough to start telling you what to do. Or you can switch, and tell her you're going to lie there and she can do whatever she wants to you - and then don't do anything, let her do all the work! Of course verbally encourage her and let her know how much you're enjoying it. Make it sound like it's a sexy new interesting game you want to try - because it is. Hopefully she'll be into it. Don't let her get away with not participating! (Unless she gets distressed of course)
2006-09-11 12:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by heehaw 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is try, but can you handle it if the relationship fails even though you have gone the extra mile. It sounds like she may be a very demanding person though quiet in technique. She could be very damaged mentally or emotionally. It would be kind of like she has a black hole in her which is very attractive, but totally destructive. Do you know anything about her? If not, you should!
I am trying for suggestions. I obviously don't know her other than my own experience with relationships. Good Luck!
2006-09-11 12:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by zclifton2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have a problem with doing all the work right now just keep focusing on pleasing her. You don't have to be perfect. It takes two to tango, so give yourself some credit. Your performance is probably fine, don't get hung up on it. Give yourselves time to get more and more comfortable with each other. She'll come around, and before you know it she'll want to please you too.
2006-09-11 14:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by jax1962 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi lips maybe you should talk to her and maybe try a soothing bath.or just spend time with her reasssuring her.and if you need someone to talk to?then get in touch with me.
cinderellamirage@yahoo.com
2006-09-11 14:53:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youu seem to be a bad teacher. Need help?
2006-09-11 12:09:03 · answer #7 · answered by baheramgor 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I guess you should let her teach you evrything she likes. god that is really sexy, when you are asked " how can I please you?" but just be sexy about it all, and relax. think about the last greatest adventure you had, and replicate it. goodluck...
2006-09-11 13:21:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
fux her from behind.......
2006-09-11 12:07:59 · answer #9 · answered by nicole 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋