My step sister who i am fairly close to is engaged. Her and her fience havnt got on to well since he found out she was having an affair, and was planning to leave him. They got back together but things aint been normal. Anyway since then my sister has had 2 other affairs which he didnt know about. About 5 months ago me and my sisters fience slept with each other. It has happened alot since. My sister guessed somehting was going on and got the truth out of me by telling me that she was leaving him for someone else, and asked me to set him up. I then told her what had been going on. She has cheated on him 3 times that i know of. My sister is still speaking to me, and so is her fience, but they have now split. I have known since the start that it was a bit of fun, but i didnt realise that it was his way at getting his own back at my sister. they have both assured me that they wernt going to last long anyway, and that i just sped things up.
2006-09-11 04:58:25 · 14 answers · asked by lady_yuna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Anyway so now my sister wants to tell my mum and stepdad (her dad) that i was sleeping with her fience, but that is not why they split up. She has cheated on him many times, and he could never trust her fully. So it was a bad relationship. I cant see what she would gain by telling everyone what had happened between me and him. I have always got on with my step sister, and i have always got on with her fience. He is a nice guy, too old for me tho as i am only 19. he is 36 and my step sister is 24. What happened between me and him was purely for fun, and ment nothing. i just cant see what my sister would gain by telling everyone as if its my fault they split, I think she just wants to pass the blame onto me, when really she is the bad one. I just want a neutral opponion. As her fience said, i was 'just the pawn on the chessboard' I dont see anything serious happening with me and her fience.
2006-09-11 05:03:32 · update #1
Anyway so now i have told her fience about all the other times she has cheated on him. They both have said that their is no hope for them getting back together. I am still in contact with her fience, and with my sister aswell.
2006-09-11 05:07:45 · update #2
Are you in the wrong? Yes.
Are you to blame for your sister's cheating? no.
For her fiance cheating with you? :::shrug::: it takes two. So you get 1/2 the blame for that one.
For them breaking up? No. But you sure didn't help things.
I would hope you had better boundaries than that but maybe since then you've learned where the limits are.
2006-09-11 05:04:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, ok maybe u didnt cause the split in the fact that u didnt MAKE either of em cheat.....but u didnt help matters either. He is in the wrong for makng a move on u while with ur sister.....She is in the wrong for cheating in the 1st plac and even more wrong for cheating AFTER they got back together.....As for you ? well if im honest u have broken the one UNSAID rule, u went with ur sisters fiance ? jesus christ ! what the hell where u thinking ? did u think u could get away with it ? or maybe shed never find out ? Im sorry maybe im giving a bit of a hard time but ive had it done to me, ive had a member of my familly sleep with my spouse ! not only does it effect u and ur sister it effects the whole damm familly. U say u and ur sis are still speaking and for that im amamzed she must have the forgiveness of a damm saint. Like i said at the start, u arent to blame for splitting em up cos they BOTH cheated and it was only a matter of time b4 one or the other found out bout the opposite. What i am avin a go about is that u betrayed ur sister, We all know talking to parents can be hard if not impossible i many situations so thats y we depend on our siblings , someone else to talk to, someone that SHUDNT sh it on us when we need help.........understand my point ? what u should of done was to tell your sister as soon as he made a move on u, easy to say no dear, then tell ur sister least then would of been less hurt.....but one final question for you ? how is she gunna be able to trust u in the same room as her next bloke ? This sort of thing can destroy famillys.....thats my opinion take it or leave it !, wonder how many agree with me
2006-09-11 05:13:42 · answer #2 · answered by Phantom Viper 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a soap opera to me LOL!! I think your doing good if your sister still talks to you because under no circumstance should you have slept with her man regaurdless if they were getting along or not. As for the guy,stay away from him altogether and just be glad your sister is still in your life. Also keep in mind that just because she talks to you doesn't mean alls well and she trusts you because she probably doesn't. You owe her an apology and from now on find your own guy and leave hers alone!!!!!
2006-09-11 05:07:33 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By the sounds it wasn't your fault. You need just get caught up with things and forgot to run for the hills. It sounds like they both wanted to get out but didn't want to say it. It wasn't your fault but I don't think sleeping with him in the first place was a mistaken and shouldn't of happened. If it wasn't you it would of been someone else. Just also remember if they don't tell the whole story to people then they just want people to think that they are to blame when they are.
2006-09-11 05:16:52 · answer #4 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not to blame. But you never should have slept with your sisters bf, no matter what the status of thier relationship. There needs to be a standard of loyalty and consideration in family (among other things), and you stepped all over it.
2006-09-11 05:02:46 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's one of lifes lessons... When you play with fire you get burnt... It appears from the way you wrote your question that you were used as a pawn by your sisters BF... It's sad... Are you to blame?... I don't think you were to blame, but were part of an elaborate setup...
2006-09-11 05:07:32 · answer #6 · answered by deakjone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Partially you are to blame.It seems to me as if you wanted him in the first place or you were trying to get back at your sister for something. But maybe you all are good for each other.
2006-09-11 05:03:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
see that why you should never slept with your sister bf ot fiancee it a shame you got in between them and he was the one use you at least you learn your lesson next time stay away from your sister bfs
2006-09-11 05:11:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you say Jerry Springer???
You're not to blame, but you're not right in the situation either. You should have let them settle everything themselves, and not gotten involved.
2006-09-11 05:24:02 · answer #9 · answered by Todd S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you sleep with your sisters fiance? im surprised she still talks to you cuz had you been my sis and you had done that to me, it would have been over, family or not. regardless if she cheated on him, that doesnt mean you get the right to bang her man.
2006-09-11 06:04:17 · answer #10 · answered by MiaDiva28 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋