ok part two of the question i just asked if you read my last one i said it bothers me that my wife was in a realtionship with a guy who treated her like crap and cheated on her and she knew it, and got pregnant from him and had a miscarrage and she stayed with him, but i forgot to add that recently i found out that he is still trying to get a hold of her and talk to her, should this bother me too?
2006-09-11 04:51:00 · 10 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i tried to tell her to let me handle him and she wont let me, i tried to find him but i cant and when i ask her to give me his number or address she wont give it to me. she said she just dosnt want me to get in trouble but deep down i think she is protecting him, she knows i would whop his ***
2006-09-11 05:00:29 · update #1
or You gotta let it go..I mean you won't be around all the time to save her and what if you cause more damage than good? I mean Superman just give it some time and see what happens you'll end up running into him just don't go looking for trouble..I wish I had a superman. Kick back..I know easier said than done..His time will come..BE the bigger man
2006-09-11 05:35:55 · answer #1 · answered by Sissy Girl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I just tried to answer your first but you removed it.
I will answer this one with a much shorter version of my last answer.
Get over your jealousy issues. Get over your self esteem issues. Stop being possessive.
You should let her make decisions and back them up with trust. If she fails then you have some trust issues to work on. Or possibly it will lead to better things for both of you.
Do you really think because he wants to be with her he deserves an *** whipping? I don't know him but he already sounds like a better prospect for her because of your possessive objectifying comments.
How do you think it makes her feel? Some one notices how hot she is and suddenly you become a raving lunatic that wants to beat the obvious out of those who can recognize a goddess when they see it?
You should learn to laugh at the pathetic mortals who cannot have what you have. You shoul let her grow as a person and not control her, lest she will loose her identity and her self esteem and you will loose interest in her because of it. Then youll move on to something more interesting break her trust, she will leave and she will still not have the identity she needs to go on as her former self. Just chill out.
There are 10,000,000,000 guys she can go screw at any given time. Let the other 9,999,999,999 drool, and try. Let her deal with them like she knows how, so that her self confidence builds and so that she knows the goddess she is and can give you the FULL satisfaction of being the ONE she chose.
If you can't then I suggest counseling for the two of you. Just so you can disconnect this need to stifle her growth as a person because of your jealous tendencies.
2006-09-11 12:27:20 · answer #2 · answered by explicit_intents 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop worrying so much. Life's too short. You will think yourself OUT of the relationship if you worry about trivial things like this. If there was no ABUSE, OBSESSION, or ADDICTION.... then she will be okay, and you just need to trust her. This is not baggage enough to be concerned about. Just BREATHE! If SHE is making a huge deal about it, then maybe she's looking for you to do the same thing to her. All you can do is assure her that you wont. If she continues to talk you to death about her past, I would re-think the relationship. Nothing can move into the future while still in the past. You can't get to first base without leaving home behind. This is her thing to deal with. Not yours. Tell her you trust her. And then... TRUST HER.
I hope this helps.
2006-09-11 12:03:11 · answer #3 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I answered your previous question, too. You need to be the man and stand up for her. If this guy thinks he has a chance at all with her, you need to let him know that's not going to happen!! She doesn't deserve to be with crap like that. He doesn't deserve to have her and has no right to treat her badly.
Ask her how she feels on the matter. Maybe she needs to tell him how she feels and to back off. I don't know how serious the issure is, but if he get aggressive, there are restraining orders for that.
Stand up for yourself, don't let this man ruin your relationsip with her. If she mean anything to you at all, you will protect her. Not to mention you are married!! This so called ex boyfriend has no grounds and no rights to your wife.
2006-09-11 11:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are some cheaters out there who can't let go of the ones whom they cheated on. It is normal to feel that it is bothering you. However, their relationship did end for a good reason, and she found a great man in you.
2006-09-11 11:56:26 · answer #5 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let what happened in the past go. i am sure you did things before that she really wouldn't approve of. if he is trying to contact her let her tell him she is not interested. if he does not listen to her and still pursues her then she prolly wouldn't mind if you stepped in and had a talk with the guy. if talking to him doesn't work then i am sure you know what you will have to do.
2006-09-11 11:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, don't go looking for him, you're just asking for more trouble. Just tell your wife, she better stop trying to keep in contact with him.
2006-09-11 12:09:10 · answer #7 · answered by Girlish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This goes back to my first piece of advice: Grow up!
2006-09-11 12:38:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if she acknowledges him.
2006-09-11 11:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by grudgrime 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
SHE IS TRYING TO PROTECT YOU..
2006-09-11 12:24:01 · answer #10 · answered by nwnativeprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋