I feel compelled to tell a really great friend of mine that I think I am starting to have different feelings for him. He’s been a great friend for almost two years now…we always seem to talk at least once or twice a day and go out for dinner and/or drinks on the weekend….Our relationship is such that we talk about each others likes/dislikes, personal and professional careers and at time the kind of relationships we look for….
He is much more outgoing in that he will try to attract and/or see if he could connect with a girl that he admires from afar….He is sometimes very successful that he would date the girl(s) a few times and have fun being around them…I catch myself at times feeling jealous or put out when I hear things like that….it is if I am jealous…or can’t figure out that it may seem obvious that I am attacked to him….I must admit though, our relationship is like buddies/pals…where we can talk about almost anything…no holds bar in the kinds of subject matters that we talk about….
I found that I started to look at him differently…but I very traditional in the sense that a girl doesn’t normally do the asking….I know we live in the real world now…but there is still something to be said for being traditional…I would be very uncomfortable telling someone for the risk of getting hurt and/or having it be a strain on the relationship….Should I just wait it out to see how it goes that eventually my feelings may change that we would be better of being friends????
2006-09-11 04:50:18 · 10 answers · asked by LES 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Of course you should tell him! If he is your "Mr. Right", and you don't give it a chance, how will you feel when he gives up waiting for you to make a move, and finds someone else for good?
By the way, I am happily married to my "Best Friend" (I had to make the first move, and it turns out that it was because he never thought someone like me would be interested in him that way)
2006-09-11 04:57:04 · answer #1 · answered by Kelly L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've just described something that I've experienced long time ago...
I decided then not to tell him, but later I found out that he knew, by his own feeling (I didn't tell anybody of that secret of mine, because everybody already thought that we are so devoted to eachother - like "married" or something like that, and have so much confidence to one another that we allow ourselves to date other persons, but that we always end together - which was far from the truth). He has made an estimation on his own, that I would not be a good lover for him, but a very good friend; also found out that later.
I thought then "Thank God I didn't say anything, I would look like a fool" and as soon as he told me what has been going in his head about me, I prepared him a little revenge. He reacted to that as if it was the only inteligent thing for me to do. Then he went abroad, married there, and called me by e-mail. The chat isn't the same, but we are friends again.
However, if I could go back in time, I would be bolder, and I think I should of say something, even if he directly rejected me. I regret for what it might have been...
So, go for it, and wait for the right moment.
2006-09-11 12:09:54 · answer #2 · answered by Wintermute 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decide if you really want a relationship or if you are just worried you will lose the one you have with him now if he meets someone. I married my best friend since the seventh grade. We were friends forever and then one day it just happened for us and we have been married for seven years, you'll never know until you try, if he is your best friend he isn't going to get weirded out if you talk to him, take a chance and who knows?
2006-09-11 11:58:36 · answer #3 · answered by k h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you are close to him, find an appropriate moment, and move close to his face, and offer your lips for a kiss. if it happens, return the kiss, but slowly.
If he rejects the offer, or h[gives you a peck on the lips, you must face the fact that he does not want to mess up a good friendship with a romantic entanglement.
Honor and cherish his friendship.
After this, the next move is his, but, in the meantime, you need to move on, knowing you have a good Friend you can count on for emotional support..
2006-09-11 12:01:56 · answer #4 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give yourself more time...It may be just an infatuation...if you find yourself being in love with him, then you should voice out...of course, not verbally...but you can try to drop subtle hints like sending him sweet sms or e-mails that convey your feelings indirectly...if he is mature enough, you can try telling him directly to his face..who knows, he might be feeling the same for you...Good luck!
2006-09-11 11:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by cuteangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, you ought to be frank - it's the best way to lose his cherished frienship. Keep your yap shut and enjoy what the two of you have found.
2006-09-11 11:53:09 · answer #6 · answered by tallblackchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh boy that's a tough one. How does he feel about you? Maybe you should ask him if it's possible that you and him could be more than friends some day?
2006-09-11 12:11:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that would not be a good idea you should just stay friends with him
2006-09-11 11:55:31 · answer #8 · answered by aquamarine003 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya i think you should tell a really good friend because you never know he could like you well i think you tell some one to get it off your chest well good lucky
2006-09-11 11:54:14 · answer #9 · answered by Terri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!
2006-09-11 11:52:12 · answer #10 · answered by thesweetestthings24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋