Okay I have this distant cousin who is here after about 13 years from Canada. I barely know him except for a few flashes of memories when he was 3 and I was 5 or 6 and we used to play around. Okay now he is a COMPLETE introvert. He hardly talks. I mean, LITERALLY....i feel that someone has put a BAN his talking! I know his parents and his siblings very well and im pretty good friends with them. But how to I befriend him? Please do NOT recommend alcohol or drugs as I refuse to try them.
Please help.
2006-09-11 04:44:12 · 3 answers · asked by Sk8er Boi 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
After reading your concerns, I will only give the suggestions not the advice, because I do not want to lead you anywhere and do not get the issue solve. Since you have certain ideas (I trust), I trust that all you need now is some insight from an introvert. And who the smarty pant suggested that alcohol and drugs can help? It seem whoever give out that suggestion is the kind of person who is socially unskilled.
First, your cousin doesn't talk it really cannot label him as introvert although being quiet and reserve are the common behaviors of those who like me (born as an introvert). He doesn't in that social occasion may not meant that he is not going to talk in other situations or places.
Take time to study him, yes that is what he may prefer. Since he doesn't communicate verbally, it is best to observe his reactions or the things he do. Actions speaks louder if you pay enough attention.
And by the way, he cannot befriends with you unless he see you as trusted individual and intimately related, and that requires a lot of time and efforts to earn that deep trust. To us, friends are those who we can share personal thoughts and feelings. And the rest are just acquaintance who we meet regularly and hardly ever speak to, remember that.
Good Luck
2006-09-14 14:02:13 · answer #1 · answered by Sonny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably feels he has little in common with you and doesn't want to make a scene. Just be polite. Ask him what sites he'd like to see while at your house; that would be a good start. Don't expect him to be just like you or to like everything you like to do. Otherwise, BUD OUT. He might very well just like to do things with his own family.
2006-09-11 16:02:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what he likes and I bet he will never shut his trap about it. People also generally love to talk about themselves, so that would be a good starting point.
2006-09-11 11:47:55 · answer #3 · answered by hpneil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋