She has expressed to me her fantasy of being with a girl and insists that she only wants to do it once. I have my obvious reservations about allowing this to happen especially when she's being so open about what she wants. We are pregnant and we both love each other so much. She told me that she doesnt want to do something like this once she has the baby and I have known about this fantasy of hers for a long time. I'm just not sure if I should be ok with this. I am not going to be participating in any of the goings on and will most likely not even meet the girl she has in mind. If I allow this, I'm potentially giving her to somebody else for a night or whatever and she could really enjoy this other chick or she could really dislike it and no harm done. I want her to be satisfied sexually and emotionally and she says she is and we play out each others fantasies. I just feel that anything that can potentially hurt us is bad, but I dont want her to do this later, behind my back. Thoughts?
2006-09-11 04:43:23 · 21 answers · asked by alienorgy69 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is a hard one. Either you do it and take the risk of her becoming a total lesbian and leaving you and raising your child with another woman like Rosie O'Donald has or you put your foot down and say no. Chances are if you do this she will go out on her own and find someone to help her with this fantasy of hers. I'm betting she already has someone in mind right now to try this with and there won't be a thing you can do about it. She might be just trying to get your ok on it so she won't feel like she is cheating. Good luck on whatever you decide.
2006-09-11 04:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with u and it seems she's a selfish bitty. Tell her u have a fantasy too. Tell her u'd like to see what it is like being with another woman in ur bed while she watches and doesn't participate to see what she says or how she feels about that. If she thinks it's ok she needs help, professional help at that. Anyone desiring anyone other than who she already has is playing with fire. And U would be the world's greatest fool to allow such a thing to happen. If u do it and she likes what she did u'll have no one else to blame but ur own stupid self. Don't give in stick to ur guns if she does it anyway she never loved u she was just infatuated with u and the idea of being married and again it will show her selfishness, she's only thinking of herself not u or the kids if any.
2006-09-11 04:56:48 · answer #2 · answered by papabeartex 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think that experience would hurt your relationship. I would say, if anything, it would strengthen it, being comfortable with sharing your bodies with another person. And you said you both live out each other's fantasies. And this fantasy will not always be there apparently. If I were you I would do this for her even if you're a little sqeemish about it. You know what? You'd probably get off pretty good in the end.
Good Luck
2006-09-11 04:51:20 · answer #3 · answered by jazzmetalbassist 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well the first thing about this relationship that bothers me is that your "girlfriend" is pregnant. Now if this was your wife, my answer would not be any different, because bringing anyone else into a sexual relationship between a man and a woman is wrong. And believe me, I know from experience, two wrongs don't make it right. First Get married, then work out the other problems.
2006-09-11 04:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by loufedalis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't do it, if you are concerned about it. Tell her. She will most likely get over it. She's pregnant, she prob. is just going through a sexual peak right now. I went through this too with my now husband. We are young and wanted to have a little fun, but in the end I just knew it wouldn't be right for us to do.
2006-09-11 04:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by lees girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I have these two friends ,married friends that is, and my girl friend had been asking her hubby to bring in another girl.a mutual friend of theres.he had been telling her no for all the same reasons that you have.but he finally gave in to her needs.they were only going to do this one time.but now.... they are both remarried.he is with the girl that that had this affair with and she is remarried to a trucker in Virgina she met him on line..i would really put some thought into this my man
2006-09-11 04:54:11 · answer #6 · answered by oceanwvs2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncomfortable with it,she needs to respect that.With a baby on the way,maybe her focus will shift to future goals instead of here and now desires.If you are concerned she may do it later w/o your knowledge then trust issues need to be addressed.A key point-would she want to share you??When that intimacy is trespassed upon,agreed to or not,it is hard to regain.GOOD LUCK>
2006-09-11 04:49:39 · answer #7 · answered by lotsalovetanya 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do not do it. this will most likely end up badly. I have seen friendships and dating relationships fall apart because of this along with marriages falling apart.
Somethings are best tom be left to the mind and not acted on
2006-09-11 04:47:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would suggest that since she wants to try it, you make it a one-time thing.
Afterwards the two of you can sit down and talk about it, and decide if it's something that you would like to continue. If not, then that's that.
Good luck!
2006-09-11 04:47:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I want another guy in my relationship for me and my partner to share... if nothing else, I want to see some guy-on-guy action. (I'm weird, I admit ti!)
I'd be careful, though, because sometimes when fantasies are realized the partner will get upset and think that you've cheated.
2006-09-11 04:47:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋