If u've been in a long term relationship (I've clocked up 9 years so far) for a while do u ever get sexually bored? Whats a good remedy?
2006-09-11 04:36:40 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
already tried the toy thing....
2006-09-11 04:59:42 · update #1
Boredom is common.
Solutions: 1- Discuss it with him; 2- Abstain from sex until you're about to explode if you don't have it; 3- Call him at work and tell what you want to do with him when he gets home.
Just a few ideas.
2006-09-11 04:40:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nine years is a long time for two people to be together. It's normal for the relationship to undergo changes. You should not expect the passion of the early stage of a relationship to last forever. It's normal to settle into a comfortable, loving, supportive stage where you feel safe. One of the best things you might want to try is for the two of you to get away to a romantic spot where there's no work for a few days. Find something affordable, something you both enjoy doing, and relax and play for a long weekend away from home, friends, responsibilities, etc. You might rekindle some of the feelings that has made this work for so long. Tell your partner you need time with JUST HIM because you want to keep your love for him fresh and exciting.
2006-09-11 11:42:44 · answer #2 · answered by missingora 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a relationship longer than 18 months and there has been times when things go a little repetative; but its bound to happen.
I recommend trying something completely new; I don't know what you guys have tired so far, but I'm sure if you need to ask us then there are a bunch of things still out there. Why don't you and your partner sit down in front of the computer and check out an adult store; they might have some gizmo's, videos, or other things that might excite the both of you. Before you know it, you guys might find something new the both of you like.
2006-09-11 11:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by flyboop_2000 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You find ways to spice it up .. add toys, add role playing, try new positions (Kama Sutra is amazing), get a pole installed into the bedroom, strip for your husband, check out the Liberator set (they are amazing!!!). Buy books, dvds, Cosmo mag always has something to add monthly in that department. Be daring .. go outdoors. Do you have a fantasy that has never been filled - do it.
Hugs from a Loving Mom to a Brilliant, as well as beautiful 8 year old Jared and Our Angel, Zachary (taken to soon but who will always remain in our heart) ~ Mel
2006-09-11 11:38:23 · answer #4 · answered by jaredsmommy2004 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sexually bored with my partner what I am doing as a good remedy is I went and stayed with friends calling my boy from a distance and have him respond then after 2 weeks things should be fine .
2006-09-11 11:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by Adrial M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in a relationship for 10 years...We have a great sex life, and I think that's what made us stay together so long... Try something kinky like wearing costumes and role playing or maybe just foreplay until you can't stand it... If he's not the aggressive type then you better be the aggressor...
2006-09-11 11:40:51 · answer #6 · answered by bellita_716 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sexually Bored... yes, that is if you stop working at finding the love and excitement that you found in each other in the begining when the relationship was new and exciting.
Talk to each other as times change and it is important to understand what turns each other on now..... then spice it up!
2006-09-11 11:41:09 · answer #7 · answered by on2try 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
New positions, add some massage and pampering. Vacation Sex Rules. New locations. Try Climatique its an excellent clitoral stimulant. Some like role playing ( not my thing) but some do like it. Try the climatique really.
2006-09-11 13:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by foxyraley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been married to my wife for 20 years, and I can honestly say that I am not bored by our sex life. It's fun, intimate, exciting, pleasurable, and lots of other things that are the opposite of boring.
2006-09-11 11:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Repition gets boring. Try getting a toy you can use on eachother, or have sex in different places, and positions. You have to try new things to keep the spark.
2006-09-11 11:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by Becky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋