Instead of hiring a lawyer, can we come to an agreement for visitations? I was thinking about writing a letter and getting it notarized.
2006-09-11 04:30:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can have legal documents prepared by a paralegal. This is how my divorse was done and I paid a fraction of the cost. It might be better to have something in writing and filed with the court rather than a notarized letter. It truly all depends on what you and your husband come to terms with.
2006-09-11 04:35:36 · answer #1 · answered by GRISSIOM PURE GENIUS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is possible to come to an agreement between you two, it is possible to do it without an attorney and save a lot of money. The forms can be found online to fill out or a paralegal can complete them at a lesser cost. Unfortunately, it will still cost money to file and finalize the divorce decree with the courts.
There are a couple of things to include for the protection of your child.
1. How are uncovered medical expenses to be covered and split?
2. What about child care costs?
3. How are college expenses or further training expenses past 18 to be covered?
4. How much life insurance does each parent have to carry until the child is 18?
5. How will the holidays be split? Obviously, father's day is supposed to be spent with the father and mother's day is supposed to be spent with the mother regardless of who's weekend it is.
6. How much uninterupted vacation time does each parent get per year and what is the deadline to notify the other parent if taken during the summer?
7. Who carries the minor child on their health insurance plan, and what happens when there is no health insurance for the minor child?
8. How is the income tax exemption handled for the child on who gets to claim them? A good recommendation is that the father claims the child during the years ending in an odd number while the mother gets to claim the child during the years ending in an even number.
2006-09-11 11:52:47 · answer #2 · answered by dawncs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write a letter between the two of you in front of a notary to include visitation, holidays, birthdays, vacations, if one parent moves, schooling, medical, dental, vision, and child support. Then take the notarized letter to file with the courts when you file for divorce. This will help eliminate the need for lawyers and stop and delay in the divorce due to disagreement.
2006-09-11 11:37:56 · answer #3 · answered by tdm1175 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lets see you go to church, are emotionally abused by your husband, don't like sex, have been married 2 years and have one kid. Now you want a divorce without a lawyer. I am thinking your hubby probably wants a divorce from you too. But first
1. Go get a physical and have your hormones checked.
2. As of right now you are not capable of raising a child and supporting it on your own.
3. Divorce is never the answer after two years, unless he beats you up, or in the case he wants out, then you really have no choice.
2006-09-11 11:43:46 · answer #4 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be optimal for the parents to decide amongst themselves what is best for their child, but if both are not in agreement or are letting their emotions get in the way there is a need for lawyers. Hopefully both of you can be mature and put your problems aside and make this a smooth transition for your child instead of a traumatic one.
Good luck
2006-09-11 11:39:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on if your husband would fight it, you could get a lawyer and go to mediation and come to an agreement on visitation but in the long haul it's best to have a court order regarding visitation because there are alot of things that come up. holidays birthdays etc... it's best and hardest but hire a lawyer for your sanity in the long run
2006-09-11 11:35:06 · answer #6 · answered by momma whitley 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are heading in the correct direction. Agree to everything in writing...then seek a "non contested" divorce lawyer. They will handle your case for a small fee (thousands less than a contested case).
Good luck--I am going through this right now (sans child).
Dont fight...just happily split up...and be friends and support each others "moving on" stage.
2006-09-11 11:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by Weatherman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mediation is usually free through the courts and is your best bet, as it also resolves child support. Seek your rights and get some info on this, even if you think this is going to easy and quick without pain, its usually not how it goes. Try and seek free advice!
2006-09-11 11:38:31 · answer #8 · answered by maxine553 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you absolutely want to do this? How long were you married for? Can't you try counseling first? Good luck in whatever decisions you make!
2006-09-11 11:36:24 · answer #9 · answered by aimstir31 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this my wife? What are you doing asking these people? Go back to your room.
2006-09-11 11:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by just1more 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋