Or made a mistake thinking it was love in the first place?
2006-09-11 04:09:45 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am sure it is a possiblity. My parents did. People change as the years go by. Life has a toll on some people. Unfortunate or even fortunate events may change the way a person thinks or feels.
2006-09-11 04:12:54 · answer #1 · answered by Keith Perry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course. This happens because as we get older, we change. You change and so does your spouse. That is why it is important to spend quality time with your spouse doing things together. Building new common interests in important. If you don't make an effort to bond stronger over the years, you will likely grow apart. If you are falling out of love then you have to act quickly. Either find some ways to bond with him or you're going to find yourself thinking about divorce.
Before you divorce, I really suggest you take a look at talking to someone who can help your marriage. Look at some old pictures of the two of you. Write yourself a journal about something wonderful you did. Write a list of romantic things you did together. If you don't have old pictures, then start making some pictures of places you go. Be sure you take pictures when you are happy and doing something fun. Hang these pictures around your house. It would be great if you already have many of these pictures. Seeing these pictures will remind you and your husband that you once had an amazing love.
I really hope you work it out. I know that I have many regrets about my own marriage. It ended very recently and only now do I realize what I should have done to try to repair it. Best wishes to you and your spouse.
2006-09-11 04:15:35 · answer #2 · answered by Roger S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi There,
Yes this is possible, some may think its not, I still love my husband dearly, if I didn't love him I would have been gone a long time ago, simply because I am not in love with him anymore. The passion has been gone for many years now, but what hurts me is that he is still in love with me. I have told him that I feel this way, and he is going to try and change some of his habits, which is what I believed turned me off, and we will see how it works out from here, I guess. I would like to talk to you just because I really have no one else to talk about this with, to share feelings.
2006-09-11 06:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by litlwoman75 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, it is very possible. And alot depends on his actions also. After the kids grow up and move on, then you realize that it is just the two of you. And if there is no friendship or hobbies or interests to share....look out. I was consumed with the kids and he with his job. Then ugh....who are we....what are we about...and do we even like each other. Unfortunately, the answer was not good. I was bored stiff and depressed at our love life....Yes, when we are l8 or l9 and marry....we have grandiose thoughts about what love is...and we don''t really stop and think about marriage....we just want to be in love and married like everyone else ...it is such a farce....Cinderella complex happens way too often....don't watch tv!!!
2006-09-11 04:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by chattykatty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you truly feel it was mistake? I think you married each other for multiple reasons. There's reasons as to why a marriage begins to fail. One major reason is that one person, if not both have stopped making an effort. A marriage is a relationship, a friendship, and with neglect begins the deterioration of it. Do you want to save your marriage? Have you spoken to your husband about your feelings? Can you seek professional help? I hope you can fix your situation, and I hope you do the "right" thing, and not just what you want for YOU. God can save ANY marriage, believe me. I've seen it.
2006-09-11 04:24:10 · answer #5 · answered by ControVerse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love changes over time. I have been married for 19 years and what love was at first has become a different love now. But, throughout the years, he has always come first and I never even thought about not loving him. I think you were not in love but thought you were when you got married. The age you got married at makes a huge difference.
2006-09-11 04:13:09 · answer #6 · answered by lynddd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do and can fall out of love. My x husband beat the love out of me and still expected it. Relationships end, all relationships-not just spouses, friends too. Its important to make your relationships a priority but when one abuses a relationship, feelings do change-love becomes hate or disdain. dont waste too many years trying to love someone that you dont.
2006-09-11 04:20:30 · answer #7 · answered by cici 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, but I'd hope you would have been with him long enough before getting married to have developed an underlying friendship. Passion tends to fade for most long term relationships, but you shouldn't think that's love fading... I think it tends to evolve. You may want to consider marriage counciling or letting your husband know. Are you considering divorce?
2006-09-11 05:04:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure it's possible. People change. It is also possible to think you were in love when in fact you may have only been feeling a certain level of "comfort".
2006-09-11 04:16:06 · answer #9 · answered by cdnponygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can fall out of love with someone. There actions can turn you away from them and so can their ways. Im in this situation right now.
2006-09-11 04:12:04 · answer #10 · answered by SEXiiNESS_2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋