actually she is my roommate, she is the best student in my class.
lot of my friends told me that she only be friend when we have some benefit that she can take from us.
but last semester she always told me that no one wont be her friends she cried...you know what thats all lied.. she make a fool on me... why she do that things to me??? i know she is the best student why dont she help me to be good too.. she always makes me feel so bad.. so down... she never try to help me in my studies, what all my friends said was true.. she only be nice to get something.. and from me the note, reference book that given by my seniour... i can't stand with her.. why she doing this to me while i am being so nice with her..??? why she love to turn me down.!! why what is my false?? i always follow what she asked me,seems like a stupid girl that follow her tails...
2006-09-11 03:39:43 · 7 answers · asked by awish 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
"A woman should not spend her valuable personal time in a relationship unless it enhances her life, helps her be the best person she can be, encourages her to follow her dreams, [and] supports her in her struggles," says Marilyn Sorensen, Ph.D., author of "Breaking the Chain of Low Self-Esteem."
We don't like to end friendships, but here's why, when, and how.
1. If they betray a confidence, they aren't your friend.
2. When they badmouth you, or are deliberately hurtful.
3. When your intuition tells you you don't want to be around them.
Check in with your bodily reactions. Getting headaches or stomach aches around someone is a sure sign. If it doesn't feel good, it isn't good.
4. When they're possessive and jealous of other relationships in your life.
5. When you find yourself naturally drawing back and distancing yourself from the relationship.
6. When it's no longer energizing to be with the person.
7. When you're putting more into the relationship than you're getting out of it.
8. When it's just too high-maintenance.
9. You can end it by slowly pulling back, declining invitations, putting less energy into it.
Most people will get subtle cues, but not all.
10. You can end it by direct confrontation, where you use "I" messages, and talk about your needs and feelings, not attacking the other person.
Either way, hard as it is, if the relationship isn't fulfilling, stimulating, or pleasing, you need to practice extreme self-care and end it. Your friends affect all areas of your life, including your health and happiness. Choose them well!
2006-09-11 06:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by OnionSkin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump this fool(so called smart @S*) real friends must be willing to help each other and not taking advantage
2006-09-11 03:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a different roommate. learn from this experience for the future.
2006-09-11 03:45:47 · answer #3 · answered by BonesofaTeacher 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're her puppet...you do all the work and she sit back and take the benefit from it...you need to drop her and get into your studies...
2006-09-11 03:49:40 · answer #4 · answered by Pumpkin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you are trying to hard to please her. just say "no" and hang around your friends. they obviously can see what you can't. what you can't see is going to hurt you. ignore her. she may be smart in school but is really ignorant about others. stay away.
2006-09-11 03:44:51 · answer #5 · answered by dolly c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hun, dont worry about her, pay attention to your studies. you SERIOUSLY need to pay attention to your studies
2006-09-11 03:42:52 · answer #6 · answered by mickey g 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Where are you from??? (country)
2006-09-11 03:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by RKF 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋