i met him 3months ago @ an eatry,we are very fond of eachother but am very shy to go out with him anytime we have an invitation 4 a party, now people are asking me how i always feel whenever am with him am gettig board of the questions, my question now is if i can continue with him or should i let him go. moreover i dont like kissing him cos he has somekind of sores in his mouth, i've not made love with him so i dont know if he can perform at all, i need ua advise now so i can know what to do, is it rue that the re prone to various kinds of ilness, this guy has been showering me with all kinds of beutiful gifts, i need and cant refuse them. thanks !
2006-09-11 03:34:57 · 19 answers · asked by Douglas A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
See if he knows how to type and make complete sentences. If he does then have him type the question and reask it please.
2006-09-11 03:38:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel really sorry for this guy. I have a niece who is Albino but she's only 4 years old at the moment. I hope that you are not so shallow as to concider dumping him because of what your friends think! He is a human being girl...capable of being hurt just like you are. I don't know if you intended it but you come across as a very cold person. If you don't think you can continue with this relationship then make the decision and end the relationship for his sake. Poor guy.
2006-09-11 10:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems as though you do not want to have a serious relationship with this person. Just talk to him and explain that you would rather be friends at this point and if the fact that he his Albino comes up then be honest with him. I personally and I know people may think of me as being wrong, but they freak me out. I have known a few and they were very nice people but I could not see me being in a serious relationship with them because my own feelings. I am not racists, I have dated all races but I just get the creeps when I see them.
2006-09-11 10:40:23 · answer #3 · answered by slanteyedkat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're just fond of him and not in love with him, then tell him that maybe you should just be friends. Don't break his heart by using him for his lavish gifts then breaking up with him and making him feel like he wasted all his money on you.
If you do love him, then you shouldn't be ashamed to be with him in public, 'cause that's what love is about: accepting your partner for who he is not what he looks like. And just tell your friends to shut up about the whole thing. If they ain't got nothing good to say, but they say stuff anyway they should just go jump off a cliff. And you can quote me on that!
2006-09-11 10:45:05 · answer #4 · answered by Fluffy the Ephemeral 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you decide says more about who you are than who he is.
If you base your decision on how you feel about your relationship-- because he is obviously good to you and you are fond of him-- then you are a good person who likes him for who he is.
If you base it on superficial stuff, like what others say or just because kissing him isn't heaven on earth, then you don't deserve a good boyfriend and will end up with a bad one. Then again, he deserves someone better anyway, if that's what you choose.
Who cares what others say? You have a unique, caring, special boyfriend and that's more than most girls can say!
Now, if you are worried about the health issues, I hope you are worried for him and not yourself, and that is stuff you should talk to him about anyway.
So decide for yourself and deal with the consequences yourself. Good luck to both of you.
2006-09-11 10:41:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u don't like the way you feel when you kiss him and u don't like going out with him, dump him. if it is only becuase of your friends that you don't want to go out with him then you need to dump your friends. but it sounds to me that you might be a touch shallow, especially when you don't like kissing him, going out with him, or taking him around your friends, but you "need and can't refuse" the gifts he brings you. don't just break up with him for you, break up with him for his sake. he can find some else who doesn't have the same hang ups as you do and live a much happier life. If you are really interested in the condition and want you and your friends to learn more about this so you can get over yourselves go to http://www.albinism.org/publications/what_is_albinism.html
you will learn that people with albinism live normal life spans and have the same types of general medical problems as the rest of the population
I didn't intend to be harsh, but you needed to hear it.
2006-09-11 11:23:21 · answer #6 · answered by ash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Those who say they're you're friends are laughing?... a real friend wouldn't laugh about that... they would be happy for you if you're happy... sad for you if you're sad.
It's about your happiness anyway... not theirs.
If you're happy with him, continue... if you're not happy with him, let him go.
He may just need lots of vitamin "C"...since he can't be out in the sunshine like he needs to be... that may help heal the sores in his mouth.
If he eats lots of beans or peanut butter, he may be getting too much protein... either way, the sores problem could be eliminated.
2006-09-11 10:56:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like each other and think it's best for you, by all means, continue. Anyone who ridicules you for having an albino boyfriend is a stupid jerk. You should base your decisions on what you and your boyfriend think of each other, not what other people think of him.
2006-09-11 10:38:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
beauty is really skin deep. . . we all shrivel up and get old in the end. . .
what is your motive? to feel like royalty forever? that's a fantasy.
enjoy the time you have to spend with this unique and beautiful
species of human being
this is a test of vanity, courage, strength, greed, what is love
and ultimately who you really are.
the answer is inside of you. enjoy your journey
2006-09-11 10:40:51 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't drop him because you friends don't like the way he looks Id drop them first.But if you cant kiss him and it makes you un-easy because he has sores in his mouth that's different.But don't just stay with him because he gives you stuff.You have to figure out how you really feel about him and judge him for who he is not what others think about him.
2006-09-11 10:41:06 · answer #10 · answered by zazzooba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first of all if he has a sore tell him to go to the doc no, go with him and find out what the hell it is. as far as your so called friends there not your friends if they cant respect you or who your dating. so fallow your hart the rest comes on its own!!!!!
good luck!
2006-09-11 10:41:36 · answer #11 · answered by ladyindia2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋