I am getting a divorce, however i would dearly love to ask my new love to be my fiancee, however do i have to wait until my divorce has gone through ?
2006-09-11 03:34:48 · 32 answers · asked by waalshy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No but if you marry before your divore is final you will break the law
2006-09-11 03:37:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you can get engaged before the divorce is final - obviously you can't get married because of the law of bigamy. However, I think some of the answers already given may be wrong. An engagement is a reason (excuse as someone put it) for a good party and as such a public endorsement of a promise to marry the lady in due course. I believe that, if at a later stage you decided to renege on the promise, you could be sued for "breach of promise" - a verbal promise (contract), particularly made so publicly, is just as binding as a written promise. All a bit negative I know .. sorry. However, if you have had a period of reflection - then met and fallen in love with this lady - become sure its right for you both - then why not! Its what I did. I was separated for several years and only moved on a divorce when I had met my current wife. Good luck.
2006-09-11 03:55:45 · answer #2 · answered by Roadrunner 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Legally there's no reason why you can't get engaged to your girlfriend - it's a promise to marry and I suppose it's implicit that that will mean when you are free to marry. It might be better to wait until your divorce has gone through though. My man is going through a divorce and I know we wouldn't get engaged as long as he's still married.
2006-09-11 04:30:29 · answer #3 · answered by Specsy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Technically speaking you are not free to marry BUT as getting engaged is just a PROMISE of marriage I can't see why not as you are asking her to marry you when you are free. I know a lot of people won't agree with me, but it is really only personal choice. I can only speak from personal experience as my husband's ex wife got engaged before they were divorced whereas my husband waited to get engaged to me until after the divorce. However, the only reason for this was that he said he didn't feel free and also because he had such an unhappy marriage he wanted to finish that phase of his life before he embarked on a new one with me. I didn't have to wait long and now we have been married for 15 months! Whatever you decide I hope you and your intended have as happy a marriage as me and my hubby! Good luck.
2006-09-11 06:13:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no legal reason why you cant become engaged at this time, so if you truely feel that this is the love of your life then "go for it".
However do be carefull, your divorce could take a while to become finalised, make sure your new love knows this ahead of asking her, this way she can make a decision based on fact instead of fantasy, knowing she will have to wait to marry you instead of rushing straight out and doing it.
good luck for the future
2006-09-11 03:54:36 · answer #5 · answered by sonia h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am engaged and going through a divorce right now. My divorce will be final tomorrow and I am remarrying AT THE END OF THE MONTH. YOU DO WHAT YOUR HEART TELLS YOU TOO. I HAVE NEVER BEEN HAPPIER. I WISH I WOULD OF FOUND THIS MAN FIRST. I have been seperated a while now. I am glad I found my true partner.Be happy good luck
2006-09-11 05:28:10 · answer #6 · answered by Raineybaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
engagement is not legally binding whereas marriage is.
if you are still married, you can get engaged (it wont be ideal but its not illegal)
however you cannot marry whilst you are still married to someone else.
i would suggest you wait for the divorce to finish though, its just better - thats my advise as a woman. if the love of my life was going through a divorce i'd rather that he gets that done with before proposing to me.... :) just my opinion
2006-09-11 03:40:09 · answer #7 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. you do not have to wait to get engaged before the divorce has gone through..although it would be wise to at least have a short period of personal inflection after your divorce before jumping into another marriage right away.
well, whatever it is your life and choice.
2006-09-11 03:39:03 · answer #8 · answered by doggoneit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask away.
As long as when you do get married again, the divorce is final.
The only problem is, if your divorce is in court and your ex is trying to get something from you and the judge knows you are already engaged, it may not benifit you.
2006-09-11 03:38:03 · answer #9 · answered by pistol_311 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont u respect ur ex wife enough to wait till you get ur divorce
why are ppl always so quick to fall in and out of love
marriage is for life its not a whim make sure u know what u are doing before u commit to yet another marriage that could be doomed to fail.
2006-09-11 03:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nop, you can get engaged you just can't legally get married until the divorce is final. Of course, check with your g/f to see if she is okay with the idea of marriage and being engaged while you are still technically married maybe it bother her, question it...make everything honest and beautful in the beginning!!!
2006-09-11 03:42:10 · answer #11 · answered by lasugarfree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋