do u agree that divorce or separation is usually best solution when a couple cant seem work out thier problem?

Question

just want to know about others opinions.

Answer 1

If your partner has committed adultery then it is up to you whether you try and work it out, personally I am out the door as soon as anyone is unfaithful.

If there is any possibility that you could work out the problems and not continue to let it affect the rest of your life, it is possible to forgive and forget, and it really depends on the couple and how much they love each other.

Answer 2

I would suggest the following three things first.

1. Check out retrouvaille. There is a group in just about every major city in the United States (I don't know where you are from).

The program is designed especially for people having marital discord.

2. look for books by Harville Hendrix. These can go a long way towards helping you understand where the difficulties may be coming from. There is also a website with a kit.

3. check out Gary Chapman's books and web site to.

I hope you can find some help before you take this very major step.

best,

cez

Answer 3

Even God who instituted Marriage did not wish it so and that is why His Son Jesus when on earth emphasised on the bond of marriage- that a man will leave his mother and father and stick to his wife, therefore, what God has join together, let no man put assunder. But when the Pharisees asked Jesus why men issues certificate of divorce to their wives... Jesus said that- that was not how God Instituted it but men out or their greediness and unforgiven spirit divorce. However, the scripture said that the only ground for divorce is Adultery or fornication as well as when the other mate's life is in danger so, affected mate can separate .

However, if they wish to forgive one another continue dwelling together, more grease to their marital elbow. So, divorce or separation is not the ultimate but how far and well have they communicated to one another for adjustment and showed spirit of forgiveness coz love covers multitude of sin.. at the same time if at all our mate have wronged us up to 77X7 times, then we know we can take the above step.

Answer 4

If you have truly tried to address all the issues and the problems still exist, sometimes it is better to go your separate ways. At least you both can have some quality to your life. There is no enjoyment being in a relationship where arguing is the only source of communication.

Answer 5

absoulutly possitvly not one bit do I agree with that concept. nor do I aprove of it. Infact I think if a couple in a marriage are having problems then they should attempt to find an alternate solution to the problem such as: trial by seperation, counceling, or even go events and vacations together and if they have kids leave them with grandma and spend a weekend together. there are other ways after all.

Answer 6

well seperation is always good if there is constant arguing and the household is just chaotic, 9 times out of 10 you get back together but a deep conversation should take place before the seperation and before the make up, divorce is so permanent and i think seperation should be considered first, don't jump in the sack with someone during seperation, test yourself and see how you feel now that he or she is gone and see if you are happier

Answer 7

I say that you should try other avenues to work it out. Go to counseling which may or may not work. Maybe or maybe not will separation work all I can advice is try counseling first then separation and if all else fails divorce. Hope you can work it out I'm in the same position right now.

Answer 8

Only if all other attempts at resolution have failed. Or if the problems involve abuse, infidelity, or financial irresponsibility. Some people give up too soon, but others let things drag out too long before deciding to separate.

Answer 9

DEPENDS ON WHAT THE PROBLEM IS.