I promised to my sister that I would not say anything to him b/c her husband told her, making her sware not to tell me. It seems so easy for him to stare me straight in the face and lie to me, It brakes my heart, and makes me very angry with him ,we are getting married in 2 months, just had a new house built, and I feel like I cant believe anything he tells me, he has lied to me before and I thought we had got past all the lies ,guess not. What should i do ,tell him i know the truth ,and cause my sister and her husband to have a major fight, or keep my promise to my sister? I wasnt going to tell what the lie is but I think it will help me get a better answer . 2 nights ago my fiance and my brotherinlaw,who are best friends went to their buddies bachelor party. I knew there would be strippers involved and had no problem with it ,mainly b/c he was being honest. so I thought they were going out to the clubs to see the dancers. It turns out the dancers came to the room to perform .
2006-09-11 03:27:46 · 9 answers · asked by jacky 78 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If this guy has lied to you in the past then why did you ever agree to marry him? You can't marry someone you don't trust. It'll NEVER work. If I were you I'd break off the engagement. You don't deserve to be lied to.
He may feel as though you'll never leave him since you're engaged and he can do whatever he wants. I'd say GET OUT before it's too late.
2006-09-11 03:33:01 · answer #1 · answered by bad_dog76 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, If it's just the fact that there were strippers in the room, I don't see what the problem is as long as he wasn't doing anything with them. He still should have told you that they were going to be there if he knew that they would be. Many people have bachelor parties like that and as far as I know most just have a good time without doing anything. Maybe he falls into that category of just being there and having a good time without cheating or doing anything else that would hurt you. If it were me, I would give him a chance to come clean with everything and then if he doesn't, then you can ask him why he wouldn't tell you the truth to begin with. That's how you gain insight into why he lied. That's the only advice I can think of to give you I hope it helps.
2006-09-11 03:39:01 · answer #2 · answered by zekemilli4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unpleasant being lied to, but think about how serious is this? If you hadn't known there would be strippers, that's one thing, but you did. Why would WHERE matter? Also, why would he lie about something so trivial, I wonder?
I dated a man who lied constantly about everything. I warned him three times not to lie to me since he had a reputation for doing it to everyone. The third time he lied to me, I said goodbye. These were big lies--for example, he told me that he went to _____ University but they had never heard of him, I checked. My opinion then was that if you can't trust him, you can't love him. I know I did the right thing in breaking up, though it definitely wasn't what I wanted to do. However, he couldn't stop lying and I couldn't trust him and probably would never be able to; a lousy basis for a relationship.
2006-09-11 03:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by Mooseles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really think you should let this one slide. I don't think this is that big of deal. Strippers aren't cool, but guys are guys. As long as he didn't go any further with them, then I seriously would not start up anything. think about this really hard because if this angers you that much I think you could be the one with the problems. No offense. Also, he probably didn't tell you because he didn't want to make you mad at him. He is probably just trying to avoid a fight.
2006-09-11 03:41:36 · answer #4 · answered by kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd like to know why the venue is so important. Why is it okay to go to the club while it's not okay to have it in the room? Is it because it's more probable for something to happen in the room versus the club? I'm sure that the same rules apply in the room as in the club. If you trust him to go to the club then you should trust him in the room. If you keep blowing stuff out of proportion, your marriage will not last long.
2006-09-11 03:47:59 · answer #5 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No big!! That is what happens when there is a bachlor party! It was a one time thing and maybe you should talk to him about it! If you love him talk to him! Tell him how you feel! Get it out in the open about his lieing!! Let him know you are hurt by it and feel that your trust in him is low!! Good Luck!
2006-09-11 03:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by kolowski4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that an't that bad, along as he didn't do anything with them....all men want a bachelor party, and they want strippers cause it willn't belong till they half 2 strighten up, i'm married, and my husband had a bachlor party jut like that, but i didn't care, because i knew who he was going home 2.......! just look pat it.... if your thinking he's cheating than confront him, but if not, then let it go, it probally didn't know they was going to come to the room, sometimes what they plan, and what the others plan are two different things........ if it worrys you that much then tell him, but remember your the one that he came home to!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-11 03:42:33 · answer #7 · answered by miss.d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your marrage is never going to work if you can't be honest with each other. Talk to him! Don't tell him how but tell him that you know he's been lying to you and that you are very hurt by this. I know you just want to be happy but if he's lying, even a little bit now, it is only going to get worse.
2006-09-11 03:34:24 · answer #8 · answered by malohalo_89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good that you know that you confess to each other everthing will come back to normal.
2006-09-11 03:36:42 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋