If you are living at home should you pay rent?

Question

My daughter is 19 and she is working a full time job and she dont go to school. My issue is shouldnt she have to help out ? I buy the groceries ...which she is fed for free ..she has a roof over her head for sleeping , showers, laundry, plus she comes and goes as she pleases. I dont recieve child support for her anymore...so why is it I feel like a bad parent if I think she should have to help out around the house with expenses..it sure is cheaper then if she were out on her own...help

Answer 1

I share my house with my two daughters, and their kids, and the youngest's boyfriend. I make each adult pay me $200 per week to cover all expenses of maintaining the house. That is all the bills, plus food. This is way cheaper than they can get anywhere else, and only the boyfriend complains.

Make your daughter pay her way. If she doesn't want to, then suggest VERY STRONGLY that she might want to move out on her own.

Answer 2

Hi. I think she should have to pay rent. I know when I lived at home i had to pay $200 a month plus my portion of the phone bill and anything extra i wanted (not needed). My mom was teaching me how to be a responsible adult. I hated it back then when it was going on but now I see why it was done. I made the horrible mistake of quitting school and her rule was, work or go to school. Being that I wasn't in school, I worked and paid to live like an adult. I am 27 now and am very responsible and i really owe it to my mom and her rule on rent. I wouldn't feel like a bad parent for making her pay but a good parent for trying to teach her how to be responsible at her age. At a certain age the children should be allowed and able to help in a house and at hers she needs to know how to be an adult. Cant learn what you arent taught though, so give it a shot and see how it works. Remember she wont be happy about it.

Answer 3

Yes, she should pay you at least $100 a month for groceries. My sister's son lives with her and he pays $100 plus he gives her money for extra expenses like house repairs, etc. Have a talk with her and if she fails to contribute, explain to her that no one gets a free ride after the age of 18. You are not responsible for her any longer and you can evict her at any time. Good Luck!...)(

Answer 4

I agree totally. She is an adult. (I applaud you for not feeling like she should have a 10:30 curfew because she still lives at home.) I could see you feeling the way you did if she were going to school and was planning for her future, but if her future is now, then being an adult means that it doesn't include a free ride. Especially if you could really use the money. But I wouldn't let her stick around forever. I think raising kids means teaching them to be self sufficient, which she will never be if things stay the way they are.

Answer 5

You are teaching her responsibility by asking her to pay rent. I think it is very reasonable to ask your daughter to contribute to your housing expenses. If she were not working or were in school I would say give her specific chores around the house, but because she is working I think you should negociate an amount that she can pay you for rent. I have a friend who took the rent money her daughter paid her and put it in a savings account to give her for her for the down payment on her daughter's first home. But, if you need the money to pay your own mortgage I think its totally reasonable to do that too.

Answer 6

I live at home, I have a full time job and study part time. Since I'm paying for my studies and my car I don't have a lot of money left to pay board. I do all the laundry, do cleaning and other stuff around the house to earn my keep.

Answer 7

well unless she's trying to save up to move out or unless she's going to start school (which she should) then yes she should help out...she doesn't need to live free forever...i'm 19, i have a full-time job, and i go to college full-time - i pay for my vehicle, my vehicle insurance, my cell phone, my credit card, and all of my necessities...i'm moving out in a couple in a couple of months because it's already been a year and a half since i graduated high school and i dont think i need to live out of my mom and dad's home for too long...your daughter should realize that she is an adult now and she needs to take responsibilities (not saying she's a bad child or anything)

Answer 8

You're not being a bad person,you're being responsible in trying to get your daughter to understand the value of money and the fact that she can't have a free ride throughout her life.She's using you.When I got my first Saturday job at the age of 14, it was me who offered my parents 2 thirds of my pay.Don't feel guilty,just write down her share of rent,gas,electric,laundry,phone bill,food,etc,and show her how much she is costing you.At 19,she's not a child anymore and can't be expected to be treat like one.Stand your ground,and ask her if her friends pay their share at home.

Answer 9

Even if you don't want to ask her for rent, give her a bill to pay!
I mean she has to enter the real world sometime and she is an adult. She has to learn that everything is not free in life.
By doing this you will be doing her a favor, she won't be so lost when she lives on her own. She;ll be accustommed to responsibility.

Answer 10

Talk to her and have her pay half the bills! The phone, Electricity,Food and things like that!! She will have to learn to do it anyways when she moves out on her own!! Your not a bad parent! But she needs to take responsibility in helping with the household bills! She is almost an adult and it is time to let her know!!