My sister just called crying saying that her 17 year old teenage son just cussed her out calling her disrespectful names and just being totally obnoxious. He told me that my sister when she gets mad always hits on him. (I believe it's because of his smart mouth). I know she has been in a couple of abusive relationships, but it seems to have carried on through with her son, instead of putting his grown but out of her house or taking him over to his dads, she just stayed up stairs in her room all depressed while my nephew went about the house like everything was o.k. what's the best advice i can give her. She acts like a battered woman all the way around. On an earlier post of mine , she was the sister who thinks I want her man, because he has said something of a sexual nature to her about me (according to her). How much is too much?
2006-09-11 03:08:30 · 9 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Enough is enough... she needs to learn how to stand up to her problems & deal with them herself... on her own two feet... if you bail her out, she'll never learn how to take care of herself.
Sounds like she has a self-esteem, insecurity problem... she needs to be told that she needs to realize her self-worth... & also stop putting up with being mistreated.
Then, let her work it out her own self.
2006-09-11 03:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What she's experiencing now is enough! That boy needs a good buttwhupping to jerk him back to reality! Any kid that is abusive to their parent deserves a butwhupping!
I'm not saying that parents are always right but it is not a child's place to be abusive nor a parents'. The boy obviously lacks discipline and the fact that there is no grown male to help with that is making him feel like he's the 'MAN' around the house.
2006-09-11 10:13:05 · answer #2 · answered by CATHOLIC PRIEST!! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think there needs to be a lot of growing up in that house, from the child AND the mother. The 17 year old should respect his mother, and the mother needs to start acting like a parent.
2006-09-11 10:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't ever turn your back on someone you love especially if they are hurting. Your sister is depressed. She needs professional help. Depression is a disease and you should help her regardless of her accusations (she's not thinking clearly and is saying things she doesn't mean) but because it is the right thing to do. It's your family and in her own she is asking for help - help her. She can't cope with her teenage son because she can barely look after herself.
2006-09-11 10:16:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he needs to have a whipping or something, cause if she don't try to help him with his anger and stuff, then that can affect him in the long run....... i think it's been enough, if my sister said something to me about her man, than i would of just not talk to her no more, it wasn't your fault, and as for the boy, she shouldn't never get this worse, she should of put her foot down along time ago..... and another thing, she needs to be careful who she brings home, cause if a kid sees a grown up acting stupid, than they think that it's ok, she should of done put a stop to it, tell her to scare him, take him to the police dep. and show him where he will be if he don't strighten up.... i did it to my daugher, and her attitude has changed so much, and i think that her son, needs a attitude adjustment... good luck
2006-09-11 10:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by miss.d 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your sister needs therapy to improve her self esteem. No child should every cuss their parents. She should have slapped the taste out of his mouth.
Yes she needs to send him to his dads. She is a battered woman. And if she doesn't do anything now. Next time he gets pissed he is going to cuss her and hit her.
2006-09-11 10:14:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
In a lime light sit together and discuss about the family relationships and about the future of her son due to her behaviour. You can slowly and watch her mood otherwise you can like enemy and quarrel with you. take care
2006-09-11 10:17:24 · answer #7 · answered by Somi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
'bout that much. Sounds like the kid needs a good butt whipping to me.
2006-09-11 10:11:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to seen him to his father. She needs to seek counsel. I think she has alot of issues she needs to deal with.
2006-09-11 10:12:43 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋