her for 10 years in different ways. during a period when we were'nt together i started having sex with a girl and i got her pregnant. The girl i got pregnant told her and she was very hurt. I explained to my girlfriend/friend it was an accident and that i truely loved her. I want to marry her and that we can do this. i wasn't with my child's mother during the pregnancy and after the birth. my girlfriend had a hard time dealing with the situation. and we ended breaking up. I haven't spoke to her since the arguement. I want to do whats right for my child now and now i am in a relationship with my child's mother. I want my child to have a family. I think I am doing the right thing. for my child's sake. his mother isn't half bad. but i never wanted to be in a relationship with her.I don't really trust my child's mom. I am only there for my kid. I am going to speak to my ex soon but i am not ready and i don't think she is either. i miss her. but i have to do what's right for my kid. right.
2006-09-11 02:59:36 · 9 answers · asked by we r family? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
"Her mother isn't half bad." Apparently, she was good enough to have sex with. Not good enough to waste a condom on, I guess, but yes to sex. I don't get that!
A baby needs two parents. Whether or not you trust your baby momma or love her is now irrelevant because you both have a baby who is 100% reliant on you. I hope you had a darn good orgasm, because now you're responsible for the next 18 years.
2006-09-11 03:08:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to try giving your child's mother a chance? Since you've already have a child with her...you can choose to make this family a complete one or ..if you seriously think that she's not for you. End it early but is this fair to the child? Your ex must be really hurt and have you spoken to her about whats really on your mind. If someone I love did something similar, I think I wouldn't look back anymore. Things have changed, there's no longer just you and her .. there's two more in the picture! Consider carefully, this child has a long way to go. I reckon your kid wants to be the natural mother.
2006-09-11 03:13:54 · answer #2 · answered by Laetishaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well ur partially on the right track.. 1st of all no matter what ur child comes 1st. 2nd u and the mom don't have to be together to raise ur child.. now that would be more practical but life isn't practical now a days.. now if u wanna make it work w/ur baby moms then do that, but not for the child but because u want to..
now the ex, u love her and that's a reason right there to try to make things work w/her but if she can't forgive and get over the fact that u now have a child to take care of then she needs to move on and u need to cut ur losses and move on as well.. ur a dad now and u don't have time to be explaining to ur ex what ur doing, and when and why u were at ur childs mothers house... she's not going to trust u again cause in the back of her mind it will always be questions of her wondering if ur cheating, if ur still sleeping w/the childs mother.. and eventually u'll feel like ur being torn between two important people in ur life..
right now u need to just sit back and let ur ex know u need space and that if she can't trust u then u understand but right now ur priority is to ur child not to her...
2006-09-11 03:24:28 · answer #3 · answered by Queen D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm shocked to say that you've brought yourself into this messy
situation which hurts all parties involved.
Since what is done and cannot be undone and forgiven, I
would advice you to look after the innocent child with care and
love.
As for the two women, you have to make an honest decision
to give one up completely.
2006-09-11 03:15:07 · answer #4 · answered by steplow33 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your not doing anything right for that child all you need to do is love and support the child you dont have to be in an unstable relationship with the mother that would not be good for your child as it would sense the lack of love between you
2006-09-11 03:03:22 · answer #5 · answered by angel 36 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes your kid is top priority but you dont have to stay in a relationship with the mother. You may have lost your ex,let her go for a while till you sort out what to do with your child.If you ex wants you back she will contact you.
2006-09-11 03:04:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do what is right for your kid even if you are not with his mother. If you still love your ex than all you are doing is hurting yourself and maybe evn your ex. you need to just be there for your child not his or hers mother. Talk to your ex maybe she misses and loves you just as much as you do her.
God Bless,
Gods Gurl
2006-09-11 03:14:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is unwilling to dedicate comprehensive heartedly to you; i do no longer see the factor of you adult men persevering with to talk and spend time jointly such as you're nevertheless a warm and heavy couple...it rather is quite perplexing to assert you like out of a relationship yet prefer to 'act' like your nevertheless a pair. She has to come to a decision on. NO....you should come to a decision on. do no longer ler HER placed YOUR life in HER hands.
2016-11-07 02:30:02 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you have to do whats right for your kid. But if youo don't want to be with the kids mother than you shouldn't be. You are wasting your own life by been with someone you really dont want to be with and you are wasting her time 2.
Surely she would let you see your kid whenever you wanted!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-11 03:04:52 · answer #9 · answered by louise12041987 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋