Today is my first day back at work and I am taking it a little hard. My son is just shy of 2 months old and I have been by his side day and night since the day he was born. He is, ofcourse, in good hands (family) but I am wondering what he will be thinking that I will no longer be there ALL DAY LONG. Will be feel scard? Abandoned? Sad? I am so worried to lose that bond!!!
2006-09-11 02:34:48 · 12 answers · asked by Angie 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Honey, if going back to work is what you really want to do, then you need to forget this emotions. Otherwise you will never be able to rid yourself of them. I am assuming, since you did not mention a partner, that you are a single mom.
These feelings although normal are defeative. I know this will be hard, do not think about what your baby feels. think of how you feel. You are providing him with a stable home and all the comforts of living.
2006-09-11 02:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by mikeae 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I understand how you feel. I am a first time mom and I have a 4 month old little boy. I have been back at work - full time - since he was about 8 weeks old. It is tough, but you will not lose your bond. You are his mommy and he knows that! Always! Just spend time with him at night, when you can, and don't worry about it. My son "lights up" when I come home in the evenings. As long as you know he is well taken care of by this family member; enjoy working and having a family. I personally think we working women have the best of both worlds and are very well-rounded. I am not at all bashing or discrediting stay at home mom's; they have a much tougher job than working out of the home. Good luck!
2006-09-11 16:29:46 · answer #2 · answered by CB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T beat yourself up. I went back to work wtih my daughter just FIVE weeks, (they wouldn't give me six because I hadn't worked there a year yet). I was pleasantly suprised to find that babies so young haven't figured out the difference in faces yet. The experience is NOT traumatic, especially if it's an intimate family scene. Daycare most definitely could be at such a young age. Your son will not lose a single OUNCE of his bond with you. It will only strengthen it, believe me. The glow on my daughter's face when I got home at the end of the day had me speeding every day! Just smile in knowing he's in great hands, and look forward to the commute home to him.
2006-09-11 09:40:43 · answer #3 · answered by SunburstSapphire_99 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he will be fine as long as the people taking care of him love him as much as you do. I wish I had family to watch my young son. I don't and I am scared to leave him with people I don't know as well. So, I am a stay at home mom right now and I some days wish that I could go back to work.
2006-09-11 16:41:26 · answer #4 · answered by tonyagc23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is my second week at work, and I'm also a new mom. You are SO lucky to have family care for your son. It is going to be a great opportunity for him to get to know other relatives. I think as long as he is with someone who is kind and loving he will feel secure. Honestly, I think being back at work is much harder on the mom than on the baby. My advice is to call the care giver often during the day so you feel comfortable.
Good luck.
2006-09-11 09:40:07 · answer #5 · answered by tish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am at my second week of work as well and I have a three month old and let me tell you leaving them everyday doesn't get easier. The good thing is that you wont loose that bond. You son loves you and he wont feel abandonded so long as you spend time with him when you are home!
2006-09-11 12:16:49 · answer #6 · answered by g_bug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear that. don't worry about your son, he'll do fine i'm sure. just think about how much he sleeps. before he knows it you'll be home from work and when he really starts staying awake most of the day he won't know any better. that will be what he;s used to. i'm a working mom and my son and i have a great bond
2006-09-11 13:27:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, you won't lose that bond you have with your son. Your son may wonder where you are at first, but since he is with family there will be plenty of familiar faces to keep him company. When you come home there is also nothing like it when their faces light up when they see you are home.
2006-09-11 09:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by eric g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You son will always be your son.
You will be there to support and encourage him when he needs it.
It is important that your son has a good environment to grow and develop.
It is important for youto feel close to your son.
Make the most of your time with him, he will know that you are there and be secure in that.
I'm sorry that you have to return to work while he is so young but please don;t feel guilty about it, many people face the same choice.
2006-09-11 10:09:36 · answer #9 · answered by Andy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I haven't gone through this yet. But I think some seperation will be good. I'm also planning on working full time when I have children. My mother was and still is a full time nurse. I have always had great respect for that.
2006-09-11 09:41:20 · answer #10 · answered by Cookie On My Mind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋