Not financially independent, but emotionally. It's like her entire well-being, happiness and sense of self-worth is being delegated to me. Am I being unreasonable in my expectations here? Has anybody ever divorced somebody like this and then later regretted it? My fears are if I try to leave, she will try and kill herself or something, or worse, be so dependent on a man, any man, that she gets involved with some pervert loser who is a threat to my daughter. My kids are 13 and 11 and I have contemplated staying only until the nest is empty. Has anybody been in this situation? If so, what did you do?
2006-09-11 02:19:42 · 3 answers · asked by lmnop 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not financially independent, but emotionally. It's like her entire well-being, happiness and sense of self-worth is being delegated to me. Am I being unreasonable in my expectations here? Has anybody ever divorced somebody like this and then later regretted it? My fears are if I try to leave, she will try and kill herself or something, or worse, be so dependent on a man, any man, that she gets involved with some pervert loser who is a threat to my daughter. My kids are 13 and 11 and I have contemplated staying only until the nest is empty. Has anybody been in this situation? If so, what did you do?
If anybody has any links to reputable websites that speak to this, I am open to that suggestion.
2006-09-11 02:34:14 · update #1
If anybody has any links to reputable websites that speak to this, I am open to that suggestion.
2006-09-11 02:34:47 · update #2
First of all, she needs some help.... She needs to go to a counselor of some sort.....
If you fear that she will try to commit suicide, then she really needs to go to a professional where she can get the help that she needs... I have no self esteem, but would NEVER try to commit suicide if my husband left me.....
If you love her, maybe the two of you can go to counseling together and you can let her know how she is making you feel by being so emotionally dependant upon you!!! If you dont love her then I dont know.....
As for the children, If you are afraid of her trying to hurt herself if you leave her, you can prove her unfit (not mentally stable enough to care for the children) and you could get custody of the children....
But like I said, if you love her, the two of you need to work on things together!!!!
2006-09-11 02:50:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is controlling over you because you let her control.She seems to be emotionally imbalanced and very insecure.there is nothing to panic take the proper measures as said below.
This women has got an antisocio-psychological disorder she needs counselling and psychiatrist help ASAP.
2006-09-11 09:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by Dipi s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, but I empathize with you. My husband is the same way!
2006-09-11 09:41:35 · answer #3 · answered by ravred300 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋