if a girl becomes pregnant and she is not married then why all the circumstances has to be faced by the girl?

Question

and not by the boy although it is the fault of both of them.

Answer 1

Because most young boys are cowards and cannot step up to real responsibilities that they are part of!

These boys only live for the brief moment of sexual pleasure and then when the young woman become pregnant they get scared and run off. These cowards are destined for failure! Because they cannot take responsibility for their senseless and selfish acts.

On the other hand too, I have to place some blame on the young girls out there for being too promiscuous. A lot of pregnancy can be avoided if they do not give in to sexual lusts. Young girls wake up and stop this behavior because in the real world, people do not take you seriously if you are a teenage mom without any clue where the father is. Employers look at you and deem you irresponsible and you get passed over for employment.

Young ladies maintain control of your lives. Don't give in to false promises from cowards whose main goal is to get between your legs. Wait for the right time with the mature and right guy.

Answer 2

Because it is more likely that the boy can run off, since he is not as severely tied to the child (that is, physically, emotionally, and spiritually) as the girl is. The girl, who is more capable of bonding immediately through the nine months of pregnancy, is less likely to dump the child on him (whereas, in his mind, since he didn't have to carry the child for nine months, there isn't necessarily an immediate bond), whereas it is very likely he will dump the child on her.

Hence, if that is the case, who will be there to support the child if the boy runs off? If he is under working age, it will be the mother (and if she is under working age, it will be the mother's parents).

It is easy to prove who the mother of a child is. It is not so easy to prove who the father is... and as long as the boy can say, "the child isn't mine", he, in his mind, bears no responsibility to the child. The mother, however, will bear all responsibility for the child, and under all conditions, since motherhood isn't easily disputed.

If the father should run off, it will be the responsibility of the mom to ensure there's diapers, formula/milk, toys, schooling, explanation of puberty, insurance of morality, and so on. After all, if the father wants nothing to do with the child, that's the end of it (outside of child-support checks). However, pregnancy generally ensures that the mother does not up-and-go... there is an innate need to ensure the child is well taken care of, even in some immature mothers, whereas even of a mildly or extremely immature father, there is no such natural instinct.

There has to be someone to care for the child, and given that a 'boy' has the same maturity level of a 'girl' four years younger (if both you and your boyfriend are both 14... your boyfriend has the same maturity that you did when you were 10), that 'boy' is more likely to flee responsibility than that 'girl' is.

It should not be so... but the sad fact of life is that it is.

Answer 3

Because all human societies and cultures value boys over girls. It will NEVER be the male's fault. Even in cases of rape, the first thing that most people do is try to determine whether the girl brought it on herself. No matter how much we talk about "feminism" and "equal rights", the fact is that society will always view women as worthless.

You want proof? Read the questions and answers right here on Y!Answers. Read the posts on the Y! News discussion boards. How many times have you seen men, and often other women, refer to all women as "b*tches"and "hoes" and talk about how all women don't work, sleep around, are stupid, etc.

Answer 4

U d said it is a fault, right it is fault. simple logic the person who escapes from the mistake is clever than who have on their hand. If there is no other way to escape they are trapped.
I doesnt mean boys are clever than girls... I like to say that girls should avoid this situation... Some girls are weaker in judging their partner, they believe that their partner is good. The fact is that not all boys are good, even they didnt judge themselves at the adulosense age. So avoid sex at that age when they get maturity they will understand the girls pains, they will care their partner as a child, they love to have child. If she finds such a guy, he wont have sex with her, mistakenly done he wont leave her at any moment.

Answer 5

I have never understood that. I admit that I do the same thing- I think to myself, "How could she ruin her life?" but I do not think the same thing about the guy that impregnated her.

I think that situations like this would be different if the laws were such that the guy was stuck with the baby after it was born. Relatively it would be great if a woman could get pregnant, have the baby and then go on about her business while the man has to figure out how he is going to enroll the child into daycare, pay his own bills while scheduling appointments to take the baby to the doctor.. oh and then after all of that, he has to hunt the woman down to get the child support money every month. He would have to figure out how to make ends meet while she has excuses for not having the money.

Answer 6

This is not true in USA.

Lots of times state is required to take care of the mother and the child,for 18 to 21 years. When that happens, state look for the Partner, but it cannot find, if girl is not willing to name the man. In some cases man do disappear.

If a man is know to the authorities then he is held accountable for the child support after a DNA match is established.

In many cases, man may not have enough income to support himself let alone the mother and child, in that case the man is tracked and in some case he is require to reimbursed the state, when he is able to.

I believe this is true in lots of other countries but it is difficult to enforce. As specially if the female is not willing to give the identity of responsible male.

Answer 7

mainly because the girl is the one carrying the child, it's easier for a man to run from it that a woman. And woman do run and the man stays. I know somebody, a man who takes care of his daughter by himself, mother ran off. But yet he can not get child support. The courts are very biased in that way too. Who ever has to soul custody, mom or dad, should be the one receiving the child support.

Answer 8

Because girls are supposed to be mature and have more common sense than get pregnant without being married (unless she was raped - which is a crime!). The girl has more control over the situation, she can dictate where to date (in a well peopled area) at what time (not very late)and what to do....and what not to do ....

Answer 9

In the case of an unwed mother a man may come forward and accept the paternity of the child, the mother may petition the court for a determination if she can identify the likely candidate(s)

If you had a child out of marriage and you know who the father is, he should take responsability for the child or you should take him to court.

Answer 10

THAT is an age old question. The answer usually comes down to the fact that she made a very poor choice about who to have unprotected sex, and a child with. When a woman is careful, she takes the time to get to know the man. She sees how responsible, thoughtful, caring, understanding and stable he is BEFORE she has sex with him (CERTAINLY WITHOUT A CONDOM).