He's 23 years old, and as soon as he comes home, he's straight to the computer games. He has no time for his friends or his family. How can I kerb this obsessive behaviour without being unreasonable? I've continuously expressed my concerns, but he continues to block it out.
2006-09-11 01:51:27 · 18 answers · asked by Clueless 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This is a hard question, because I am 26 and had the same problem with my husband. I think if you hide it or buy software to block him out it will just make the situation worse. It took me months of nagging to get him to realize I was serious. I would just keep trying and try to deal with it like an adult not a child and hopefully he'll come to his senses and see that he needs to spend more time with you and the kids. And if all else fails tell him no more sex until you and the kids start getting more attention. That will work eventually, it always does. Good Luck!!!!
2006-09-11 02:08:22 · answer #1 · answered by ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a dinner party or something where friends and family are for a start. Then Get rid of the computer. Honestly there maybe a logical explanation why he's playing video games. He's either stressed out or he's needs time for himself. Find a new hobbie that involves other people.
2006-09-11 09:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by rebel101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turn it off !!
No really , it cannot be healthy to spend so much time on a computer if it is to the detriment of other important parts of your life !
I think you will have a problem here as this can certainly classed as an addiction. You will probably find a local support group through a doctor or hospital/health centre.
Good luck !
2006-09-11 08:54:28 · answer #3 · answered by Andy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how unreasonable would you find setting a password and not telling it to him or even selling the computer, but he doesn't seem like a reliable person to me, so you should consider letting him go; he might be already engaged with the computer.
2006-09-11 08:55:45 · answer #4 · answered by Mira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem so i set a family day were the computer is turned off so now every Sunday we have family day no computer use is allowed
2006-09-11 08:56:44 · answer #5 · answered by the ole ball and chain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are programs out there that are supposed to limit the amount of time that your children spend online... In this case, such a software might be good used for the adult. Just be sure that when you set it up, that he cannot figure out the password to disable it.
2006-09-11 08:55:32 · answer #6 · answered by Brian H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that his family needs him more than the computer and that sitting on the computer every time will instead he should proove to his family that he love them because if he is behaving in that manner it shows that he does not love his family and he does not need them.
2006-09-11 09:19:49 · answer #7 · answered by Goldah N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start hogging the computer yourself when he comes home so he can't play. Tell him to find something else to do instead. Other than that I do not know how you could break his habit. It doesn't sound like reasoning works!
2006-09-11 08:52:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Harsh way: Leave him and if you mean a lot to him, he'll chase you back and that's probably one good time to make him think through his actions. If he doesn't do anything to get you back, then its probably time to move on until he grows up and realise whats really important in life.
Life is short and we should spend our time well. Life = Time and hence, Lifetime.
2006-09-11 09:40:57 · answer #9 · answered by Laetishaa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no real fix for that. and he has new friends and family on line. he might grow out of it. i have a sis that did much the same thing and told her so. so she went and watched tv. not better by all means. other then planing outings that no one could say no to. like Disneyland. you get the point. real life is bland and full of turmoil. and not much fun work home work home is all we have. to base our life on. sucks don't it.
2006-09-11 08:59:55 · answer #10 · answered by brakedown61301 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋