2006-09-11 01:46:23 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Please don't bring love into the equation, it has no relevance. I do love her and yes it is blind, but I'm not (not that there's anything wrong with being blind).. It is possible to love someone and not be physically attracted to them anymore. I'm not asking about love advice just what would be the best way to handle this, not do anything, discuss it with, if so, how. That's all. Thanks.
2006-09-11 06:04:25 · update #1
If you don't find her attractive go out and by her some clothes for her that you think make her look attractive cuz once you start buying her new clothes she'll think that you wanna spend some more time with her then she'll do what she has to do to to make herself look more sexy to get you turned on or whatever
2006-09-11 01:57:23 · answer #1 · answered by lilsienna1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know. Maybe she's not attracted to you anymore either. Sex is not the most important contributor to a relationship, but it's certainly a factor. It's ok to be devoted to someone intellectually still and not be physically connected. But don't stay together if you're not because it could possibly lead to infedelity. You never know. People change and just because you love someone, doesn't mean you should stay together. Definitely try talking to your wife. Be compassionate and understanding. Maybe suggest that the two of you should make a change in your appearances. I mean if that's what's bothering you. Did she bear any of your children? Be understanding about that as well. Women's minds and bodies sacrifice a lot for child birth. Maybe try something new in the bedroom. Use your imagination! The tools haven't changed, I'm sure. You seem to be visually turned off. Good luck.
2006-09-11 01:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her, dont try to hurt her feelings, to do that, you must show the fullest dedication you ever had in your entire pitiful life (just kiding) but yes, showing that you're more than willing helping her get you turned on by her looks will have her more bonded to you than ever before. ask her if you guys wanna go shopping, have different hairstyles until you find the right one, or even try one of these make over thingys.. But all in all, no matter what you do or think, you should let her know that you love her for who she is and not what sshe looks like.. back in high school (2 years ago) i thought i would mary an awesome wife, yet, unattractive..but there are things you could do about this..
2006-09-11 01:55:39 · answer #3 · answered by Freud C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I you don't love her then you need to let her go cause she deserves to be with someone who loves her. As for the physically attraction do what most men do close your eyes and think of someone that turns you on. I think that, that is the wrong way cause when your in love with someone you look past the looks and see so much more. That also makes things better.
2006-09-11 02:10:15 · answer #4 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wife doesn't have to be physically attractive to be that "someone" for you... As long as you love her personality and so forth, you should stay in the marriage. If you feel you can't get past the physical thing then you should probably look for a divorce.
2006-09-11 02:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by theodore.story 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What isn't attractive about your wife? Perhaps, you should ask yourself that question first... then talk with her about what is unattractive and maybe she is feeling the same way. To have a happy marriage that goes along with the physical attraction for one another is open lines of communication. You must tell one another of your likes and dislikes.... Good Luck!!
2006-09-11 01:51:45 · answer #6 · answered by crazy life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? You must have found her attractive at one point, is she not taking care of herself like she used to? You need to talk to her about how you feel while still taking her feelings into consideration.
Think what attracted you to her when you guys met, that spark that you felt is still there, you just have to find it again, even if it takes some input on her part, not just yours. A marriage is a partnership, not one sided. It is time you guys sat down and had a serious talk.
2006-09-11 02:27:00 · answer #7 · answered by Dre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you obviously found her attractive at one point or you wouldn't of dated her or married her. This is really serious....so try to dig and found out what it is. I don't feel it's because of anything physical....perhaps something has happened over time. Does she nag and annoy you? Do you argue all the time? Because that's understandable ..... you need to feel close to someone before you want to "get close." If it's physical, well, I don't know what to tell ya. If you are devoted to her like you say you are, that shouldn't matter to you.
2006-09-11 02:09:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
what would make you physically attractive to her again? find the answer and make it happen for the both of you. If is weight join a gym together if its hair or makeup set her at a all day salon. is she feeling pretty and like a women ask her how she feels about her self and go from there being creative in sutle ways to make her feel good about her self again
2006-09-11 02:08:05 · answer #9 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to think about what made you fall in love with her in the first place and try and work on it from there what has changed with your wife? Only you know the answers to that...
2006-09-11 01:53:05 · answer #10 · answered by cowgirl angie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋