i was in a relationship.it was going to fast for me so i ask him to slow down but he interpret it as i am not serious. so he when back to his ex-gf but at the same time he said he still love me and blame me saying i was the reason he when back to his ex. i moved on although i still have feelings and my heart breaks. we sometimes communicate. but about a year n half past, then he came back saying that he still wants me and he breaks up with his gf about 2 months ago and dont want to look back. of course my heart say give it another chance but my head say is he worth it. So we decide to takes things slow then see where it would go from there. About two three weeks after that,i heard a rumuor saying that he's now talking back with his gf and might be back together. i wanted to ask him about this but i'm afraid that he would say that i have no right to ask cause we're are now just friends, not yet move on to the next level.what do u think?would he betray me twice?my heart is aching.help me
2006-09-11 01:36:44 · 13 answers · asked by Sercet A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't see a problem with you asking him about his ex, especially if you have romantic interests in him..
What I do see is you giving him a lot of mixed signals. You say you love him but want to be friends, and yet you seem to have no desire to go to the next level, while accusing him of betraying you. I realize you may want to make sure this is right, and go slow, however you need to decide, and decide once and for all, where he stands with you and then make it abundantly clear to him how you feel. If you are going to love this guy, you are going to have to take a chance. You may or may not get hurt, but that is a part of searching for the one you want to spend your life with. This is called loving and learning. Don't be afraid to take a chance.
I think his problem is not so much betrayal as it is he has absolutely no idea what it is you want from him. If he is talking to to his ex-girlfriend or any other woman for that matter, it is because you given him the very distinct impression you only want to be friends. This is the impression I got just from reading your question and the information you have added to give more detail.
Here is some helpful advice: Men don't take hints very well. You are going to have to tell him how you feel, or you WILL loose him, and this time it may be for good.
The ball is in your court now. Once you have told him how you feel, clearly and up front so as to eliminate any possibility of a misunderstanding, and then he keeps this up, then you can accuse him of betrayal. Right now, you can not fairly or honestly say he has betrayed you because of the mixed and confusing signals he is getting.
If you really and truly want to be with him, then straighten this out.
2006-09-11 02:01:55 · answer #1 · answered by bowtierodz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear innocent lady if you are allowing him back to you again , will be the most worst decision you are going to take in your life , after so many things happen with you . Pl do open your eyes and see the world from the new angle . Do get change your way of thinking and life style for the happy future and peaceful life ever .Good luck .
2006-09-11 08:58:07 · answer #2 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well tbh its best to know for sure than let yourself get all wound up about it. Just as him as a friend if he's back together with her or not. personally i advise never jumping head first into a relationship with a guy you dont trust and who has already betrayed your trust once.
I say you can do better, but at the end of the day its up to you.
hope it turns out ok.
2006-09-11 08:40:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This guy is messing with you! He wants to have you and the other girl both hanging around waiting for him while he's being a scumbag. This relationship is going to bring you nothing but more heartbreak. Find someone who will treat you right.
2006-09-11 08:44:15 · answer #4 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girl once a player always a player.. i cant believe he blamed you for what happened! That's so asshole!!! If I wear you I would still be friends with him and show him what he left behind for a one nights worth of pleasure. You can get someone so much better that him, and lett him see it!!!!
2006-09-11 08:50:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have a right to ask him, if you want to be with this guy. If he will not answer and gets mad then leave him along. Sounds like he wants to always have a back-up
2006-09-11 08:41:40 · answer #6 · answered by littlegun561 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should ask him....esp since your just friends you have every right to know....and IF he is back with her then maybe this will help you to move on..i know you still care about him...but if he is treating you like this you sooo deserve better!
2006-09-11 08:42:13 · answer #7 · answered by Tricia K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this doesn't sound right. if he can't make up his mind, he's not worth it. think of any good that might come out of you getting back together with him. does it benefit you? or are you just going to end up in heartbreak?
2006-09-11 08:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by Chelsea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Cheat on me once, shame on you. Cheat on me twice, shame on me.
He accused you of making him run back to his ex girlfriend. I wouldn't give him the time of day. He used you as an excuse for the reason he cheated on you.
2006-09-11 08:40:55 · answer #9 · answered by sarah071267 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to ask him if he is with his ex girlfriend again, especially if you guys are just friends he should have no problem answering you.
2006-09-11 08:39:24 · answer #10 · answered by 00 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋