2006-09-11 01:36:44 · 20 answers · asked by JITHU 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Sorry--You can't tell her not to love you, she is going to anyway. You can't stop from hurting her either. This unfortunately is a fact of life. But you could let her know how much it hurts to hurt her. Couldn't hurt to let her know you still care about her feelings even though you are not in love with her.
2006-09-11 01:45:41 · answer #1 · answered by waltnsue2000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell her how you feel, without leaving your statement open-ended, and make it impossible for her to question. "I am not ever going to love you back. I don't feel that way for you and never will." And then leave her alone to live her life.
It will hurt her no matter what you say or do...if you try to be "nice" it will backfire and she will have hope that you will love her back. Be blunt and forceful and by doing this you won't drag it out. Hurting her is what happens in the aftermath and there is NOTHING you can do to stop this. Just be very honest and by doing this (even though it may hurt her) will be the best thing you can do for her. Good luck!
2006-09-11 09:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jenny Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. No matter what you say she will be hurt but have learnt a lesson in life about unrequited love.
Explain gently that although your are very flattered that she loves you, you just don't share the same feelings but you'd like to be still friends. Don't do this in front of other people and be prepared for tears.
Some people go through their whole lives with no one loving them. You are lucky-so be kind.
2006-09-11 01:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by Dancemomma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there's any way, really. It's impossible to dictate other people's emotions. If she already loves you, then that's it. If you tell her not to love you, that will just sound confusing and very self involved. The best thing I guess, would be to be honest right from the very beginning of your relationship, and tell her that you don't want to commit, or you just want friendship, or whatever it is that's keeping you from wanting her to love you. Having said that, though; there's a lot to be said for being loved. It's a good feeling.
2006-09-11 08:48:35 · answer #4 · answered by krissy_butterworth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not a way to do that if she already loves you. But if you don't love her in return & want out, being honest about how you feel is the best thing to do. Staying in a relationship you're just not happy in is wasting both of your time! Just don't be mean about it...be as sensitive & conciderate about her feelings b/c news like that always hurts, but if your a gentleman about it... she'll respect you & the way you handled it & she'll respect you for at least being honest.
Good Luck!
2006-09-11 18:06:33 · answer #5 · answered by paigenstuff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF a girl is going to love you, theres nothing you can say or do. Aside from making your intentions and feeling known in the beginning that you are not looking for love.
2006-09-11 01:39:30 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her and then let her go. If she tries to hang on for a bit, don't be to nice and friendly. Tell her that it's over then mean it. Good Luck! Then never do that again to a girl and if it was unintentional then learn and live. you can't help it sometimes. But when you can help it. Do your best to help it. God Bless you!
2006-09-11 05:45:01 · answer #7 · answered by SecretUser 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does somebody's love cause trouble, unless there is an expectation by the other person from you !
Let them love you and thousand others, no problem.
If some reciprocal action is demanded or expected, then you can clearly spell it out why and how it does not suit your needs !
2006-09-11 19:25:11 · answer #8 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how you tell her your feelings, she WILL be hurt because of the rejection. Rejection ALWAYS hurts, but you still need to make her see your point. Good luck!
2006-09-11 01:42:18 · answer #9 · answered by CRT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is a way. Be direct but as tactful and humane as you can. This way, she can't blame you for sending mixed signals, and can't fault you for being a jerk either.
This is assuming that she really likes you, and you're not simply misconstruing her intentions. Otherwise, you're in for a ego-buster!
2006-09-11 01:50:49 · answer #10 · answered by ELI 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋