My hubby is 30 next year?

Question

And he is feeling a bit down how do i perk him up to me its just an age nothing different is going to happen, your not going to grow a second head are you?

Answer 1

Before I turned 30 I thought it was going to be the end of what I thought was my youth. Images of Logan's Run began popping up in my mind and everything looked gloomy.

But then I turned 30 years old... And nothing happened. Nothing changed at all! Well that's not entirely true; I discovered that although I didn't feel nor look any different, I did somewhat figured I was in fact getting older and therefore I didn't need to be a "slave" to other people's b*llsh*t. I mean if society would now see me as "old" (since I was past the whole 20s) then I wouldn't "need" to be a part of the usual crap involved with such an age group. Basically, people see folks over 30 as old, so I might as well take "advantage" of the situation and play it for all its worth!

I didn't feel like I really was much older than I was, say when I was 25 or so. A buddy of mine looks almost younger than I do, and he turned 40 this year! ANother friend of mine who looks like he's my age (35 now) and yet he also turned 40! Another buddy of mine, who actually looks like he could be younger than I am, just turned 39! And the worst part in all of this? Most of these guys aren't even mature enough to compare to a 25 year old girl!

So to quote Aaliyah "Age Ain't Nothing But A Number".

I now am 35 years old and I still feel no different than when I was 30 (which was no different than when I was 25), except for the fact that I actually feel I have nothing in common with the younger generation(s), sharing but basic morphology and longevity.

But I was born in a different era, and grew up in a different world. Computers were not made home affortable before I was in my mid-twenties or so, and cell phones weren't a part of reality unless you were some kind of military operative or working in construction. Although it may sound like the dark ages, or very nostalgic and "retarded" to today's cell-phone/MP3/ipod/minidisc whatever generation(s), I lived in that world and thought it was much less stressful. These days, the only real thing different (being 35 years old) when looking back when I was 25, is the level of stress and the quality of life.

So tell your hubby not to panic; he can still act immature at the tender age of 30 if he wants to!

But at the same time, it could also be the perfect time/point to make changes in his life since it is still considered to be "the big 3 - 0"

Cheers!

Answer 2

Turning 30 is a "big deal" to many because it's seen as the end of being a kid and being undeniably an adult. When I was young the tagline was "Never trust anyone over thirty" as if that were really true.

Making light of it may help. We used to have "second childhood" parties as we turned 30, dressing up as kids, playing stupid games like Candyland and Twister and acting as childish as possible. Ever see someone drink a gin and tonic from a Playtex nurser?

My oldest turned 30 this year and we made her a tee shirt with a tombstone on it with her date of birth and this year's birthday on it and the inscription was "M's Youth- Born x xx xx -- Died x-xx-xx" and the back said "Over 30- Do Not Trust!!!" The kid loved it.

Another gift idea is a good wine and a note that states that like a fine wine he only improves with age.

Growing a second head at 30 really only happens about 50% of the time.

Answer 3

I know what you mean! My hubby was down and depressed going on 30! It will get worse <-----He is now 1 year away from 40! It doesn't help my hubby has a self esteem problem. just reassure him that you find him MORE attractive as he ages! But don't expect to stop the complimenting, the older he gets the more pampering he'll need! Good Luck!

Answer 4

Make sure to have a great party (if that is what he wants) or take him to his favorite restaraunt or pub and be extra sweet to him. He won't grow a second head or anything. Turning 30 isn't too bad, I've done it too, you realize your no longer a teenager but age is really all in your mind anyways, your only as old as you feel.

Answer 5

Hey, thirty is YOUNG! I'm fifty and loving it. Now my kids are grown up and I have two new grandsons! Just reassure him that it's all about thinking young. You can still find all sorts of new things to do and enjoy life.

Just to finish: when my grandad was ninety-three we all went out to the pub together and had a wow of a time. He said that you just have to stay positive and most of all be glad for every day. He always was, and no matter what happened he never got down on himself.

Lenky

Answer 6

My hubby'll be 30 in October and he's feeling quite sorry for himself too. Just pamper him (all men like that) and for gods sake, don't do what my aunt did when her hubby turned 30!
She threw a surprise party for him and when he walked in they shoved him in a wheelchair, gave him a rug for his knees and played 'one foot in the grave' whilst bringing his tortoise shaped cake to him! Surprisingly enough, he got a little bit of a complex then!! He also had to spend lots of money and blame it on a midlife crisis!

Just tell him not to worry until he starts losing his sense of humour, losing all his hair (or it turns white!) and losing his bedroom abilities along with having to take an afternoon nap!! Thats when you know you're old!

Answer 7

My hubby was 30 in June and to make him forget his age, I bought him a light-saber....well he's just a big kid at heart!!! 30's nothing to get down about, its still young. Anyways, youre only as old as the woman youre feeling hehe! ;O)

Answer 8

buy him something new and shiny, a boys toy, men like that sort of thing, that should keep his mind off his age.

P.S the reason why they worry about getting older is because they get scared incase they have to really grow up now, but reassure him that doesn't happen for another 20 years, if indeed at all.....lol

Answer 9

If he's a bit down about it then make sure that you celebrate his birthday in a low key way, like having a quiet meal just the two of you. As for in the meantime just play it down , reassuring him it's just another year and that being 30 makes him far from being old.

Answer 10

if hes like most men put on a sexy pair of hose and a nice nighty and open his eyes.If hes getting down and out this soon there might be underlying problems with your relationship that may need to be addressed. as we all age we go thru different emotional ordeals.Let him know its alright and encourage him that 100 of millions before him had the same problems so hes not alone.Also might i recommend that if you don't already have a church home this might help to raise his outlook of life