My boyfriend and I were for around together 6months when I found out I was pregnant. At the time we found out, we were having alot of troubles and basically in the process of breaking up.
He was REALLY angry and whatnot especially because I was considering keeping the child. Everything got really nasty, even his sister got involved....
It have now been over a month and we're not talking, If I send him even a nice text message he replies back nastily and tells me to never msg him again.
He use to be the most beautiful boy I'd ever met... and would do anything for me, so loving and caring... now he's totally off the rails.
Do you think he will come around over time?
Will he ever want to be a part of his babys life? (due in march)
Is it just a time thing or is this it?
2006-09-11 01:21:49 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I did take precautions... I was on the pill, took it at the same time every day. Was so careful with it...
He was having fun with me and it was all about sex? This was the boy who would tell me he was going to marry me someday... and wanted to take me everywhere with him, and who had planned out our kids names (Which would freak me out!!)
I didn't fall pregnant to hold onto him, why would I do that when I already had him? It was not until a month later and we were having problems that I found out I was even pregnant... that just made things worse.
And yes, It definitely is his child... I am not a cheater at all.
An no, Its too late to have an abortion...
besides, there is no way I could kill my baby.
2006-09-11 02:49:57 · update #1
I am sorry it's turned out like that but I think you should just cut contact, stop wasting your valuable time and effort ('cos your gonna get tired soon anyway) concentrate on keeping yourself and your baby happy and healthy, prepare for your new addition and enjoy being pregnant. I would send a text once the baby arrives, that way he knows what's happened and see what happens. But please don't wait round for him as you are the ones who are important.
Hate to ask, but have you thought about if you want his financial input??? bit expensive starting out with things so maybe it's something to consider and chat to somebody about - start with your Doctor.
Just look after yourself and don't dwell on what's happened - you have the best bit to come and you get it all for 'keeps' - Mummyhood is hard work but the best thing in the world.
Stay healthy and happy and good luck with the baby.
2006-09-11 01:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by aza 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that only time will tell. That is the hard part. That and he might not. Give it some time and if doesn't change then it is his lose. A child is a wonderful part of life. I have one and it changed my husband for the better. Sometimes it is like he is a different man and I thought that he would never change, not that he was bad just set in his ways. Maybe the same will happen with you but if it doesn't then at least you have a child to love and care for. A child that will bring you more joy then you will ever know.
2006-09-11 01:30:55 · answer #2 · answered by sscott12414 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The last thing I would text him is to say, as soon as the baby is born you would like for the baby to have the fathers last name. So it would be nice even if he wanted nothing to do with you he does his baby and he might as well because he WILL be paying child support because you didn't make this baby on your own and your not going to take care of this baby on your own. Then just say I will text you to tell you how my doc appts go and when I'm in labor and that is it. How good of a father you choose to be is on you!
2006-09-11 01:53:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may or may not come around.... He may just be really scared right now seeing as how he is aware of the fact that he will soon be responsible for the life of another person!!!!!
Guys really freak about that sort of thing (in some cases anyway).....
Im guessing yall must be somewhat young, or he just wasnt ready for this to happen yet....
He may come around in time, he may not... The important thing for you to do now is to focus on yourself.... Dont stress, as it can be hard on the baby, drink plenty of water, and get plenty of rest.... Eat healthy, and be with your friends and family that will be there for you for support!!!!
If it turns out in the end that he doesnt want the baby, dont fret it... I was a single mom for a while, its hard, but it can be done..... Believe it or not, there are men out there (even in today's society) that will still be with a woman who already has a child.... My husband (of 3+years now) accepted my daughter as his own, and 7 months after we were married, we had finally won the battle in court and her name was changed, and he had been able to legally adopt her!!!!!!
I know it seems quite difficult right now, but things will work out for the best!!!!!
Have faith, and take good care of yourself and your new baby on the way!!!!!
GOD BLESS
2006-09-11 01:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on a few things like if he is not ready to become a father if you were cheating is he sure it is his and does he spite you because he thinks you did it on purpose to hold on to him more then likely he won t come around and be there for the baby seeing he himself is not mature enough to handle the fact of his oncoming fatherhood too many women out here are raising kids on their own and need to take birth control and the precautions in order to keep these things from happening.....also do not push your baby on him if he wants to come around he will ....and never leave your baby with someone who does not want to watch it....good luck sweetie
2006-09-11 01:27:59 · answer #5 · answered by glass_city_hustla 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
FIrst thing GET AN ABORTION....Your guy is probably off the rails because you allowed yourself to get pregnant and he feels that you manipulated him and tried to trap him into getting married. Besides, why do you want to keep the kid when his father doesn't want you or the baby? Why do you want to be a single mother? Why do you want to ruin your life? Not very many guys are going to want you...There are very few men out there who will want to raise someone else's kid sorry, but that is the truth...
2006-09-11 02:02:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What i guess from your situation is may be all he wanted from you is just sex and nothing else.So when he found that you are pregnant , he is too afraid to take responsibility
I don't know whether he come back or not, because i don't know what happened between you two, that lead to separation.
Well i guess if he truly love you, then he would definitely come back.
I also wish the same for you.Wish you all the best
2006-09-11 01:28:35 · answer #7 · answered by ZxssxZ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you guys don't have to be together for him to help take care of the baby! he probably thinks it's not the right time but you have a baby on the way now! the fact is that he may never come around and except the baby but you have to do what's right for you and the baby! hopefully he'll come around because you'll need the help and the baby will need a father! i hope everything works out for you , just make sure you follow your heart!!!
2006-09-11 01:29:25 · answer #8 · answered by thelastdragon 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
since you made the choice to keep the baby,i think its only fair for you to decide if he'll be part of the baby's life.The best thing for you to do, is for you to focus on this pregnancy and deliver a healthy baby and then build a good life for yourself and your baby.Whether he involves himself or not should not matter.Many women have single-handedly raised children on their own and you won't be the first.What doesn't kill you can only make you stronger.
P.S. In future please take the necessary precautions in avoiding this to repeat itself.Good luck.
2006-09-11 01:28:55 · answer #9 · answered by T.I 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its for sure that he will not come back to you and also , indirectly he is now refusing to share your burden and coming responsibility . Better re- arrange your life style now , keeping in mind of March , get prepared mentally as well as physically and financially , coupled with lots of blessings and prayer's from near and dears . Good luck & take care .
2006-09-11 01:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by your noon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋