i just want to know there are others out there in the same position....any suggestions from you married folks?
2006-09-11 01:21:22 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
hey
im not married - actually im notoriously single and im quite happy that way but for some reason i am usually pretty good at giving others advice on the subject.
everybody says, "it will happen when you least expect it" or "stop looking so hard and you'll find it" but thats c**p. I dont think that is very constructive advice and even when you dont look for it, your not necessarily gonna find it.
this is my advice anyway -
1) first decide what it is to YOU that would make someone "the one" I suggest you make a list of all the qualities that you like in a person. Dont worry too much about writing down the things you dont like it people, (i try not to encourage negativity of any sort)
2) Try new things, join new groups, travel and experience all life has to offer. If you dont have many other single friends, still, hold your head high and get out there girl. If you have to go it alone, it will only make you stronger and build charater.
3) When you do finally find "the one" (referring back to your list - coz there will be someone who will have every single one of the qualities you are after in a person) make sure you tell them how you feel. Be honest.
And remember, dont settle for second best. There is someone out there who is perfect for you.
Good luck!
2006-09-11 01:36:41 · answer #1 · answered by miss2sexc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm married to" the one" for me. I almost gave up on finding the right one.Just when I thought I'd had enough bad relationships, she came into my life. My sister introduced us and thought we'd be good friends because we had so much in common. We were good friends for a couple months then it just happened. We had spent alot of time talking& watching movies. The friendship turned into the greatest love I've ever known. I highly recommend spending time getting to know each other before you jump in. It makes the relationship stronger and much deeper. Good luck.
2006-09-11 08:31:35 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with sssshadii. When you stop looking, the right one suddenly appears!
Also, I suggest if you have trouble meeting people where you typically hang out, change your venue! Go to church, volunteer at a charity, join a new gym, take a class. Enjoy life and enjoy what comes along. Good luck.
2006-09-11 08:26:09 · answer #3 · answered by DMBthatsme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ironically for me, I found love right after I had given up and just started trying to get laid ;-P
It seems that being in the hunt for a long term mate shows on you and will drive away those who aren't ready; the best way to find romance is to stop looking and enjoy a happy, healthy life. That in itself will attract people.
2006-09-11 08:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by drumrb0y 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!
I broke up with my finacee after 3 yrs, it's been hard to move back on love again. but overall. I'm having a hard time really getting to know new people, and investing my time and effort. Scared of disapointment again i guess..
SO YES I am for sure.
My best advice is just take your time. and be strong. you will find it when the time is right.
2006-09-11 08:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by SexyMama18 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LJ, even though I'm not married, I need to tell you that if you take your time and know exactly the kind of guy you want, you'll meet him very soon. But you need to spread your search-light beyond a limited horizon cos you may find him where you least expect. Please, always remember this.
2006-09-11 08:45:30 · answer #6 · answered by mykemejeje 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop looking for it. It is not that important. If it happens great, but don't worry about it too much.
2006-09-11 08:24:10 · answer #7 · answered by 15fsg546rge1rrheljh45hjr90459ty3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are millions out there, hence the reason for dating agencies etc. You'll get there... just need a little faith ( I SO just quoted Prison Break!!! high five?! anyone?! HIGH FIVE?!)
2006-09-11 08:24:54 · answer #8 · answered by Rich W 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It only takes a minute to fall in love.
2006-09-11 08:25:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
the odds of finding "THE ONE" are astronomical..better just looking for somebody you care about and they care about you..doesn't hurt if the sex is great also
2006-09-11 08:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋