when i was 15 i got into a stupid relationship with my back then first boyfriend. i was so into him, but he was cold. always on and off... After him i decided not to date anyone... now there's this guy... the first one in three years to make me think that love deserves a chance. he told me he loved me and stuff, also very sweet things. but most of the times i dont say it back... (it goes through my mind... but i dont say it back) it worries me he thinks im a cold b&^th.., he'd been hurt in his past relationship (year ago). now he wants to settle down with me. i need help ... how could i be more... sweet?
2006-09-11 01:14:17 · 21 answers · asked by xtar 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Go to your local bookstore and find the self-help section and see if there are any books to help you open yourself up to love.
2006-09-11 01:17:55 · answer #1 · answered by kindofkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
life is too short not to love. You may just need more time to heal from the past. There's no certain time when we get over a broken heart. I say good start in giving him a chance to love you, just give yourself some time and some credit because it's hard to start over. So to answer your question, no, you are not cold, just going through a healing process.
2006-09-11 08:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by lynn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First are you ready for a relationship and do you kinda trust him ,if so you need to give it a shot not all men are the same ,you can date him and just keep your gard up .You are not cold you have been hurt ,you are protecting your heart ,if it is right for the both of you to be together it will happen ,you need to lighten up and let someone else love you again .good luck to yah
2006-09-11 08:19:56 · answer #3 · answered by Holly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you really cared for him, the sweetness and warmth would come naturally. Try to not think about the other boyfriend so that this one can have a fair chance. Don't let that first one control your life because that is exactly what he is doing!! Good luck, I hope it all works out happily for you.
2006-09-11 08:17:36 · answer #4 · answered by Ms. G. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES INDEED u sound cold and rude and thats not good call him give him a BJ and allow him to have you whichever way he would like to and thats how you could act SWEET to him
OTHERWISE
You are acting and reacting pretty normally and dont let this feeling make you do what i just mentioned above just to make you understand that you are normal. Stop Worrying!!!
2006-09-11 08:24:53 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll be more sweet when you'll realize that you are cold.... With the ghost of the first guy. As a sort of revenge. But this new guy has nothing to see with this first story, so don't make him pay for what he did not commit !
2006-09-11 08:17:43 · answer #6 · answered by lorenzzzo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont go telling him everything and anything he wants to hear. If you feel like telling him something and you mean it then tell him. Explain to him why you havent been so "sweet" if he cares about you he'll understand. good luck
2006-09-11 08:17:15 · answer #7 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just follow ur heart and try to be normal,people do mistakes all the time,don't make the past rent a place in ur present or affect ur life....what has gone is gone now,live ur life....i wish u all the best
2006-09-11 08:20:11 · answer #8 · answered by Oma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only act how you feel or you're going to regret it later. If you really care about him, maybe you can share your past experience so he can understand why you aren't as outgoing as he is with the words.
2006-09-11 08:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by Catmmo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya your past experience is pulling you back. but if you are serious in dating there is noway but to comply.show some interest with the guy before he concludes youare really cold while you are not i suppose.
2006-09-11 08:20:16 · answer #10 · answered by maithravarun v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋