We all know how chatoic, uncontrollable and convoluted our dreams are. From analyzing my dreams over the years, I can detect they're primarily a complex, atemporal conflation (mixture) of various experiences. Dreams are usually the anti-reality of my reality.
The girls of my dreams, on the other hand, are always perfect! They are beautiful, flawless, intelligent, funny, kind, sweet, etc. How does the brain consistently recreate the perfect woman? Where does it get the template from?
I don't want to believe that dream girls are an anti-reality!
2006-09-11 01:13:34 · 15 answers · asked by ideogenetic 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Oh, but these aren't girls I know! It's not being blinded by a beauty I've seen. I don't recognize any of them among the models, movie stars, friends or passing strangers I've encountered that catch my eye.
2006-09-11 01:19:11 · update #1
i think the woman in your dreams is just a mixture of the good qualities you have seen in many different ladies all combined into one woman dat is your ideal dream woman and all the personalities you would lik her to have
i think you are going to find you dream woman, but she would not be exactly lik what is in your dream the first time you see her, but she will unfold lik a butter fly as you go on
P.S N DID YOU WATCH DAT LOVER BOY MOVIE CAUSE U SOUND LIK U DID
2006-09-11 01:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by fatima b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This appears when the person has not enough self-esteem so during the night the mind is scanning the most painfull event of the day: "Look at all these perfect ladies-feel imperfect yourself" or smth like this. That means the mind feels threatened by this humiliating/painful/not true thought.
Don't give too much attention=power to the others,because they don't need it but you lose and don't
get it back. It's yours, it has your energetic signature. It's for you, for your purpose.The most important thing is what you have to do to be O.K. and then comes anything else.
And I think you reached the point where you need to define/understand what means "to admire" and the measure of it. Just think how much does an ear of wheat admire another fellow ear of wheat in the field of wheat.
2006-09-11 11:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by Simona T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically, when we meet someone we're interested in, we don't see their flaws. It takes some effort in getting to know them and spending quality time with them that you get to know their flaws and whether you can tolerate them or not. In your dreams, you're always setting up the "perfect" environment and you can manipulate your dreams into giving you what you want, not what's reality.
Sorry, but perfection is not possible and therefore not a reality. Even if someone was "perfect" I'm sure they'd end up being perfectly annoying!
2006-09-11 01:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They "seem" perfect to you but in fact they are just a reflection of YOU. Thus, they are your "perfect compliment" and you get along with them great, they never have a need that conflicts with yours, never present a challenge to you, emotionally, psychologically speaking.... They come from your mind, so they are only as much as your mind can fathom/grasp/handle--
There is nothing unhealthy or abnormal about this at all. its normal development, and it stays with us throughout life. It is the basis of healthy marriages: we all know, we look for someone similar to ourselves in a partner. This causes us to fall in love.
And falling in love with someone renders tham "flawless" at least for a short while....
so it's a chain of events......(they're percfect becaue you know what you want, and your mind presents that, and nothing but that, to you. how much more 'perfect' could that be??)
...the template is from who YOU are... :)
2006-09-11 01:21:02 · answer #4 · answered by Yentl 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're an idealist living in an imperfect world. So get over it now or your in for some huge disappointments and heartaches.
2006-09-11 01:22:12 · answer #5 · answered by Desi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could B perfect in dreams only, in reality, no one's perfect cent percent.
2006-09-11 01:50:02 · answer #6 · answered by JD 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's why it's a dream,girls or guys r alwiz perfect in dreams coz in reality their not.so our brain seeks d ultimate perfect man/woman.
2006-09-11 01:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by Jane Fairfax 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dream them up perfect.. since you are so imperfect. Its your perfect way of feeling good enough.
2006-09-11 01:15:55 · answer #8 · answered by Serious Mandy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
b/c this is your mind that tells you what you want and the fact is there's not a perfect woman or girl out there.
we all have lots of flaws
2006-09-11 01:44:31 · answer #9 · answered by DENISE 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Coz you dream perfectness in all.Not possible.None is perfect in this world.
2006-09-11 01:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by JILMAAL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋