My 19 yr old son has a 2 yr old son that the mother claims is his, though she didn't tell him until after the child was born.. Not a word to any of us that she was pregnant or anything.. For the last 2 yrs, they have tried and tried again to make it work. I know my son loves her and I believe she loves him, but neither is mature enough to make it work.. All they do is argue..
My son is now trying to make it work on his own, but she uses this child as pawn to constantly make him feel quilty..
I'm wondering if it is possible for me to ask for a paternity test, without stirring up a bunch of child support problems.. I understand if it IS his, he owes him that much, but he gives her money when he can and loves him very much, but the thought keeps entering my mind "What if it isn't his and he has gone through all this for nothing?" Sorry this is so long, I really didn't mean it to be...Thanks
2006-09-11 01:04:24 · 6 answers · asked by Termite 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Questions have been raised by father and myself. My son's name is not on birth certificate. Although my son loves him as his own, I don't feel its fair for her to use him as a pawn and demand money, now that they are no longer together, if the child is not his..
2006-09-11 06:21:20 · update #1
I'm sure all those answers would depend on your State's family & child custody laws...
I would assume that a Grandparent would make a request for paternity test in order to pursue visitation rights...
Child support laws also very from state to state... & this maybe a issue that your son might want to look into...
(For example: Our state does not always take into account direct cash support payments made to the Mother from the Father. Fathers can then sometimes owe years of back dated child support for delaying "going to court"...)
A Lawyer who practices "family law" in your state would best be able to answer all your questions...
2006-09-11 01:25:43 · answer #1 · answered by gurlyruby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may petition the court for anything you please.
However, the court only acts on petitions that it thinks have merit. I doubt the court would consider ordering a paternity test where
1) there is no dispute about who the father is
2) the father doesn't raise any questions about his relationship to the child
3) the mother doesn't raise any questions about who the father is
4) and the petition is presented by a third party who is acting on on a "gut feeling".
My best advice is to be supportive of the kids, love your grandchild, and remember that parents have been fighting and rearing children for thousands of years. So far, it's all worked out in the end.
2006-09-11 01:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by Stuart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. Get hold of your representative and request info on grandparents rights; paternity tests are relative inexpensive about 200 dollars. May be worth the cost of the test to find out. Make sure the testing firm is reputable. Then sit down with the two of them and explain that fighting all the time is immature and for them to find other ways to get their points across. It is not fair for the kid involved to hear it all the time.
2006-09-11 01:12:21 · answer #3 · answered by Patches6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not in Indiana -- but maybe in other states??
He should have demanded DNA testing upon that child's birth. And if it IS his son, and he does the DNA testing now, he'll owe a court-established amount of money retroactive back to that child's birth. Better start saving now....
2006-09-11 01:13:49 · answer #4 · answered by Momma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can ask for one. But without the parents consent you cannot force them to undergo such a test...
2006-09-11 01:13:18 · answer #5 · answered by Andy FF1,2,CrTr,4,5,6,7,8,9,10 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you can legally ask for it, but as your son's mother, you may be able to talk to him and see the logic behind why he should get one.
2006-09-11 01:06:50 · answer #6 · answered by Catmmo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋