If your spouse of several years suddenly revealed that they'd had a sex change before they met you, and they were really the opposite sex, would you stay with them and work it out, or would you bail? Guys that means your wife is really a guy. Ladies that means your husband is really a woman.
For me, if it was just a boyfriend, I'd bail; but a spouse has differnt priveledges, so I might try to get through it; although I'd be highly pissed!
2006-09-11 00:55:47 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Great answers everyone! Some of you are a little harsh; for goodness sakes, don't beat the person! lol. This is a hypothetical question; so no, it's never happened to me or anyone I know. Try to keep in mind the amount of courage it would take for this person to finally come clean about it. They'd be terrified of losing you and the marriage. Although I'd be mad as hell, I'd definitely want to reassure them I still cared about them but probably need time alone to think on it. If I stayed; I would demand absolute honesty from then on.
2006-09-11 01:31:11 · update #1
There is absolutely no excuse for such a huge secret to be kept from your partner or spouse. I'd definitely have to do some soul searching and also wonder what other lies in our lives I'm living on a daily basis with this person. Can you live with it? I don't think I could live with the mistrust and lie.
2006-09-11 00:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by cmandrews_27 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!! THAT TOUGH. First the deceit and total disrespect for the truth would be more than enough to not believe in this person . If just dating OK I could handle it a little easier
but to marry you with such a huge secret TO MUCH
I would need some time to figure this one out on my own and not with anyone else thoughts/ comments or views.
2006-09-11 08:17:52 · answer #2 · answered by livelovelaugh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be pissed to. That is something that really should be mentioned before you get married. If you still loved the person after they told you and got married great. But to tell you after you are married, sounds like they were trying to trick you into marriage, maybe thinking you would leave if they told you before. Good luck.
2006-09-11 08:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by b_iceman2001 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would kick them to the curb and maybe toss a little beatin' on them. They started out the relationship as a lie. What else did they or could they lie about. They are leading a life of deception and deserve to be alone. I would also take everything I could from them!
2006-09-11 08:01:21 · answer #4 · answered by MICHIGAN PI 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that is just too big a secret to keep from your spouse. I would feel beside myself with betrayal. I don't think I could overcome it. It's probably not the right thing to say, but I would probably bail!
2006-09-11 07:59:32 · answer #5 · answered by steelypen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I loved my spouse as the person they are, then I would hang on. I'd probably be curious about it, but it wouldn't bother me. I think people get too hung up on gender and not the person inside.
The only thing that would piss me off about it would be the fact that they didn't tell me before.
2006-09-11 07:57:53 · answer #6 · answered by Catmmo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this, because I do not believe that divorce is the answer for many marital problems, but in this case I would have to consider divorce. Everything would have been a lie and that is something I don't think I could tolerate. I hope this has never really happened to you or anyone you know.
2006-09-11 07:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by kindofkitty 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
yeah I would be because, not fair for me not knowing of this person changing to different. I would like to know about it before married. I would find out why? and then leave this person, for lying to me and leave for good. No reason for me to be with that person.
The bible said man and woman married. didn't say anything about opposite sex change to be with man or woman. smiling.
2006-09-11 07:59:25 · answer #8 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I would be highly Pissed to,but once I'd calmed down i would think about it,it all depends on how you feel ask yourself a question has your feelings changed for him/her.
2006-09-11 08:09:10 · answer #9 · answered by wizardalli 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that a sex change operation is serious enough to be told early in a relationship. It will completely destroy my faith in that person. I won't be able to get through it.
2006-09-11 08:02:24 · answer #10 · answered by elgil 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋