how can we make good friends and be sure that they will never hurt us?

Question

i mean how can we judge a person"s character without knowing him very well and how do we come to know that this is the one whom we need as a true friend

Answer 1

u cant do that

Answer 2

There's no sure-proof way to judge a person. A human's mind is by far the most complex subject on earth. People changes and that means we can never expect them to be the same.

Enjoy the friendship. Try to look on their strength and if possible, let them know. They deserve recognition and its human nature to not disappoint people. Minimise on the weaknesses, not everyone is perfect we just have to learn how to tackle our way through when we don't meet eye-to-eye. With these, I've managed to find a good number of true friends because I want to appreciate them.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

It is true that we as humans can be quite vulnerable, and so any choices we make about who we have as friends are likely to have an impact on our lives, good or bad. I believe in giving everyone a chance at friendship. Sometimes things work out in the best of ways, but sometimes you think "why are we friends anyway?". People aren't always what they appear to be when you first become friends. I'm experiencing that myself. I guess the main thing is, take a chance, believe in the goodness of people and live in the moment. As situations change, you will see in time who your friend really is, and if anything, you will grow from the experience.

Answer 4

A person may hurt you for several reasons, most of them unintentioned. But you must mainly think that being hurt is your action, not theirs. You may remain indiferent to their acts or not, you may be understanding or not, that depends mostly on yourself. To demand to a person to act always having as first consideration wether you will be hurt or not may be a little selfish. I t is equivalent to asking to that person to be absolutely subservient to your moods and attitudes. It implies asking that person to make sacrifices that you are not willing to make. A well developped empathy will help a lot.
If you don't know a person quite well, it is impossible to tell wether it may be the frienf you want.
And remember, people change.

Answer 5

here's my advice:

1st, make sure YOU are the kind of person u want as ur friends. so, make sure u take care of urself, ur attitudes, the way u think, the way u judge, or don't judge, others; take care of YOUR responsibilites and actions and reactions to situations; be as open minded as possible, be willing to Learn, and strive to be a Good Person, and Good woman, someone to be admired and trusted and well-liked. so that may also mean u gotta take care of ur Appearance and ur Knowledge, so that u Feel Good, Look Good, and Understand many things, in order to build that confidence in urself.

2nd, i think the more u are happy and positive in ur life, the more attractive u are to others. in a Good way; when u are positive, u attract positive people to you. when u are negative, u kinda attract negative, or "bad" people to you. so while u are working on urself, u are actually working on ur ability to maintain and make Good relationships, with Positive people; because u are feeling confident and happy, u will be able to see, and filter out, the negative ones. stay close to Good, Healthy, Happy people, and stay away from the Mean, Negative ones.... ones that don't prove they are good friends, ones who backstab you. the thing is, the stronger and confident u are in urself, the more likely u can "bounce back" from someone who DOES backstab you; think of it this way, u were the "good friend", and that person treated you badly. therefore, who is wrong? not you. and that knowledge will keep you Strong, and Learn from your mistakes, and keep distance between that person and yourself.

so, long story short, work on yourself, continuously learn and grow, keeping an open mind, and u will be the kind of person OTHERS WANT to be friends with.... and u will be able to "pick and choose" who is a great person to be in ur life, and who needs to change in order to fit in w/ a Healthy, Positive Lifestyle. good luck! :)

Answer 6

No one can't answer your question, except u. Depends on how truly friend you can be to other person too. If u give everything for a friendship, will find how lovely someone else could be with u too.

Answer 7

Hi Sakshi
I want to tell you a few things which i consider a must before completely relying on a person,firstly nothing is instant except
maggie noodles. do take time out before reviling your secrets as there is nothing more dangerous than a person knowing all your secret.Secondly when you have trusted someone please do it wholeheartedly as there isn't any relation more beautiful than friendship.

Answer 8

You will have to get hurt once to experience it as I did very recently.
""NEVER EVER MAKE A FRIEND"" forget good or best ones.

Answer 9

look shakshi this is touch n try thing.... when u keep in touch with other people as a firned among them u can find some as ur good or best firneds... we have to try to find this type of firned for us with self afforts. their is no clues to find a buddy with cent percent assurity that he/she is perfect charactered n who will never hurt u !!!

Answer 10

you know ..it's difficult to find a friend who will never heart you just once...i think it's impossible...but if you want a real good friend you must like his character his style and his behavior.....and when it's something that you don't want to see it from your friend you better tell him what it is... i hope i helped you...

Answer 11

life is a risk. if we dont make mistakes, we dont learn. it is inevitable b'cos we cant judge a person's character if we do not try him