Why people can not be with someone and be faithful? i'm scared with people behavior... more i see more i'm scared... there is no respect... i've just been into the most scary ralationship in my life and i didn't have any ideia what was going on... the girl i was living with, that i loved and didn't give any reason to doubt about anything was actully living a double life... she didn't brake up with the ex and neither him nor me knew what was happening... Why??? how??? I'm 34 and been through lots of things but nothing like that... how can we trust someone??? i just want someone to love and have i life with.... I'm lost....
2006-09-11 00:15:12 · 15 answers · asked by Alex A 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I know it must be hurting but life goes on. We can't know what goes on the mind of other persons. The best alternative we have is to trust them. And also five fingers are not the same; so everyone is not the same.
You might meet other girls but to really developed something meaningful, you will have to trust again.
That's relationship so complicated yet the same.
Try to forget about it thinking that there's much better ahead.
2006-09-11 01:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by Saphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just are. I think in part its human nature, but I also think that if it happens, then in some ways, you're better off - no, wait, let me explain before I get screamed at - if you love someone, really, really love someone, completely and utterly, best friends, want to wake up forever next to that person and never get bored.... you wont look at someone else, wont consider someone else - you dont need to and you're blind to other 'opportunities'. Anything less than that, doesnt mean you're automatically going to be unfaithful, it isnt inevitable that you will cheat, but its likely you will walk away, that it will fall apart - and if you're weak, then you may well fall for someone else, but not be strong enough to give up what you've got. Sometimes its easier.
That said I think its vile and wrong on every level, and to do it to someone you claim to love and respect just shows how little of either you really feel for that person - if you really cant wait to drop your knickers, at least have the decency to break up first and be honest - why add lying and deceit to your list of unpleasant character traits?
2006-09-11 00:27:34 · answer #2 · answered by Pington 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although there are a lot of cheaters out there, not everyone is unfaithful. If the women you are meeting is like that, You may need to start hanging with a different kind of crowd. Change the places you go. For example, A good woman may be found in church. You'll have a better chance of finding one there than in a club or bar.
2006-09-11 00:30:04 · answer #3 · answered by Cal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a nice guy. The predators out there preying on nice guys are too numerous to count. There are good people out there, they are just very hard to find. I would recommend looking at another culture. I found a wonderful woman from the Philippines (no, not mail order, geeze) and we are very happy. She understands that men and women have roles to fulfill in order to make a happy couple. Something that seems to be lost on most American women these days. We both work. She is is NOT subservient, and she takes crap from NO ONE, especially me. But she knows that relationships are built first on TRUST. I am sure she could introduce you to one of her friends and you could once again find your faith in a good relationship.
2006-09-11 00:21:31 · answer #4 · answered by wizard8100@sbcglobal.net 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a respectable good Girl but it just happened to me some times ago ...
and it's a most painful feeling i ever tasted or felt with
may God help you and take care on next time
for me i don't have any best friend now, and it's OK with me no problem at all
2006-09-11 00:55:03 · answer #5 · answered by Sh_zak 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what your going through i had that done to me like a week ago and it hurts but my only difference was is that my ex got a girl pregnant. But anyway as days go on u also heal and start to move on with ur life, and believe me there is someone out there for you who will love you for u and will treat u with the respect you deserve. hope u find love soon!
2006-09-11 00:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by twinmommy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a great guy and I'm sure you'll find someone who really deserves you.
Although you're hurt just remember not everyone is like your ex, some people can be trusted they just need to be given a chance.
I hope everything works out for you.
2006-09-11 04:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is in there nature, they feel they have to go and cheat on them, they arent sastified and they dont want the one they married, so they go looking for someone who they are satisfied with. I know how you feel! but at my age I know that it happens. Because they get bored with their partners and have been brought up with no morals. A person, who has divorced parents, or who can justify being unfaithful in any way is more likely to do it.
2006-09-11 00:20:00 · answer #8 · answered by dark^wishy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are scum. We all suck ***. We all fell off the rail.I blame America and the Media for most of the world's problems. We are all programmed to think the way we do.
I am sorry about your bad experience. I had the same thing happen to me. I must admit. I have cheated too, but i felt so guilty afterwards. I wonder about the people that dont rfeel guilty... Do they have morals?!?!
2006-09-11 00:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
time heals all wounds! i know you will find someone that can accept you and be contented on what you can give to her. you know a lot of people are not contented with their life that's why they're still looking for another... i hope all those people like this will have time to think that nobody is perfect...... stay contented a nd happy on what will you choose and you'll have a better a happier life!! i know you can find someone like this!! don't loose hope!! sooner you'll be happy with your life!!! goodluck!!!!
2006-09-11 00:23:53 · answer #10 · answered by honeyko_japan 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋