I was there for him the whole time and still am. I know he appreciates this. However he has been really short with me rude, and just plain mean. I know it is hard for guys to express their emotions but this is taking a toll on me too. I feel like I've lost a family member too. Should I just let it go or should I say something? Thank you so much.
2006-09-11 00:08:32 · 8 answers · asked by Me luv u long time 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sure he appreciates that you're there for him and probably doesn't mean to be so rude and insensitive, he just doesn't know how to deal with his pain.
Try talking to him calmly and let him know that you also feel a great loss, but if he becomes argumentitive don't push him, it will just make him more defensive.
I hope everything works out for you.
2006-09-11 00:21:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He may be going thru a bad time that only time can heal. However, there may be another problem. Sometimes when a man wants to end a relationship and don't know exactly how. He'll pick fights with you and just in general be an ***. Hoping that you'll be the one to end the relationship and he won't have to. This is called being a coward for not facing up to his feelings.
Ask him if he's trying to end it. Or give him time to work it out on his own.
2006-09-11 00:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by Cal 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The guy shouldn't be a jerk, but you have to give him some time to heal. If you know about the stages of healing, he may already be to the angry stage if his cousin was in a veg state for awhile. If he was good guy prior to this, just be there for him and he will eventually say, "Thank you for standing by me during this tough time." If not, the next best thing is to blow up at him. I would never (in any other circumstance) recommend this, but he needs to see your pain and what he is doing to you. Sitting him down to civil conversation about his behavior will not work.
2006-09-11 00:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by Shyguy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try to ignore how he is responding to you right now. It has nothing to do with you. Just give him some space to get through his grief. It may take a while. Don't pressure him to go do things or spend lots of time together. Men have a different way of responding to death than women do since they are taught not to show emotion. He probably had a lot bottled up.
2006-09-11 00:12:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for the right time... & u know this is not the right time..... if show patience here ... more often then not when emotions will subside, your BF will realise his own mistake & u will not be needed to say anything...
Even if this doesnot happen... u should say it when everything is normal & you can make ur things understand in a better manner...
2006-09-11 00:15:29 · answer #5 · answered by Ashish Samadhia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just give him a little breathing room, he'll come around. the reason he is taking it out on you is he is secure enough in the relationship to feel you won't bail on him because of this. have patience. most men have a hard time dealing with their emotions and this is how the frustration and helpless feelings of losing someone come out. hang in there it will be o.k. good luck and God bless.
2006-09-11 00:15:13 · answer #6 · answered by nana_bad_ass 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be there, and don't push him. Let him talk to you, and just listen to him. Hug him when he needs it. He needs support right now, he will come around again to being the man you use to know, be patient. Take care and good luck.
2006-09-11 00:10:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
he just needs understanding try be there for himit may take a while but it cd be worth it comfort him dear
2006-09-11 00:13:36 · answer #8 · answered by Snifer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋