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same old story - says he doesnt love her, but will he ever leave or am i just kidding myself?

2006-09-10 23:59:58 · 49 answers · asked by lovableswann 2 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

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forget about it, or try and think how you would feel if it was your husband

2006-09-11 00:02:07 · answer #1 · answered by szekeres101 2 · 0 0

You are completely and utterly kidding yourself. Have you ever seen 'As Good as it Gets'? When asked how he writes women so well he answers that he takes away logic, responsibility and accountability and imagines how he would behave without these 'hindrances'. That's you, I'm afraid. This guy is married, he probably has kids, these are the choices he's made. Don't fool yourself into thinking you can have any sort of healthy relationship with this idiot of a man and don't think for a second that you won't be destroying other peoples lives in if you pursue any relationship. Walk away.

2006-09-11 01:14:44 · answer #2 · answered by T M 3 · 1 0

Why? Sounds like you could be kidding yourself. My suggestion is to back off. Most marriages are complicated enough without having the added discouragement of an extra-marital affair involved.

Give him a choice, his wife or his lover.Don't let him have his cake and ice cream too! Because if a man who says he will never leave his wife for his lover isn't really worth having. Please remember this is the opinion of a married woman who used to be the lover. I moved on with my life and married a totally completely different and wonderful man.So the real suggestion here is to either fish or cut bait.

2006-09-11 00:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by trisha 2 · 1 0

You are just kidding yourself, all the statistics point to the fact that a married man very very rarely leaves his wife for another woman. This man wants his cake and eat it. I bet if you found out he is in a very loving marriage despite what he says. Also put yourself in his wife' s place if she found out - would you want to be in that situation? End it now before you are so entrenched that you can't. Find someone who is free to love you and see you openly whenever you want him to and not when he can fit it around his wife and in secret. You deserve better. Good luck.

2006-09-11 00:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

RUN LIKE THE WIND!!!!! You're not in love with him - just the fantasy of him. Real life is different to stolen moments and he's having his cake and eating it. He's nothing but a selfish ##@@##. Go out and find a man that you can enjoy being with openly and loves you for being you, not a nice piece on the side or a dirty secret.

2006-09-11 00:10:30 · answer #5 · answered by wee stoater 4 · 2 0

Put yourself in his wifes shoes for a minute - imagine finding out your husband (the person you love, cherish, and swore your life to) has cheated on you.

You will probably find that if his wife finds out he will just be trying to win her back afterwards anyway.

If he doesn't love her - why has he not told her this so they can try and work through their problems.

You cant help who you love - but you can help yourself by stepping aside from the situation. And if he follows - then he does love you, if he doesn't then he was just having his cake and eating it.

2006-09-11 00:10:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Sorry, just kidding yourself, chances are greater that he will never leave her,don't put yourself through it, and do you really want to be with someone who would leave his wife for someone else, you know he would be capable of doing the same thing to you. Good Luck with whatever you decide.

2006-09-11 00:12:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

It doesn't matter what we say to you, because you will have to go through this yourself to decide. It is not a good thing for several reasons, one being that even you know that what he is telling you is b.s., and the other thing to remember is that if he would cheat on his wife with you, he will cheat on you too. This is NOT your fault, we have all been put in such a hard situation. Good luck to you, and you hold the answers to your own questions, just let them come to you.

2006-09-11 00:05:51 · answer #8 · answered by {Lisa} 3 · 0 0

Get out now! Even if he would leave his wife (which he probably won't), if he has an affair with you while he is married then he has already proven his tendency toward unfaithfulness. If he cheats on his wife, then he will cheat on you. There are plenty of available men. You just have to perservere until you find one.

2006-09-11 00:05:13 · answer #9 · answered by arizona wolfman 5 · 1 0

been there done that- make a quick exit honey, cause he's not gonna leave her. And even if he did end up with you- could you trust him- you know he's a cheater. Think about it. I wasted a year. I know he must make you feel like a million bucks- but believe me a real and honest relationship (where you can actually go in public w/ the person!!!) makes you feel even better.

2006-09-11 00:05:17 · answer #10 · answered by doughgirl 2 · 1 0

He may leave his wife or he may not. Both ways, be prepared for long suffering and dissapointments. You may have happy moments too, but try putting everything into balance before proceeding further. Life is to short and precious to spend it waiting and hoping...

2006-09-11 00:12:03 · answer #11 · answered by Amantia A 3 · 0 0

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