why there is so much child abuse going on these days??

Question

why there is so much child abuse going on these days i see parents spanking the hell outta there kids will this ever going to end i see some parents who dont love their kids and never even give them a lil hug is this abusive atmosphere in USA ever going to end about 75% parents belive in beating kids for dicipling will it going to end i gotta write a artical about it and i also feel that this is not the way to treat kids what do you think??

Answer 1

I don't think theres more child abuse going on today than there was years ago...We have access to more information now than we ever had, thanks (or not) to the Media, before we just didn't hear about it......I disagree with smacking children too, kids are becoming out of control and life for most is hard, some people just can't express themselves any other way and they don't know any different.

Answer 2

Well I'm not sure where you are from, or how you where raised. However I know that in my 40 years of parenting and watching others successes and failures with their own children that I have come to the conclusion that the bible was correct when it said Spare the rod and you spoil the child." No this statement did not translate to "Abuse your children." However it did embrace the knowledge that a child with no ruled and no consequences for his/her actions are quick to stray from the path. In modern society many parents do not want to face the responsibility of their children. They seem to not want to be bothered with the fundamentals of child development. They pass that off to the TV and to the schools. There have been so many constraints and restraints on parental control that any form of discipline is looked upon as abuse. When children are left to their own vices and are allowed free rane of their actions they do not learn to take responsibility for their actions. This my friend is the down fall of the American family. People who feel that children should be allowed to voice their opinion and disobey basic laws of conduct are those who look at discipline as child abuse instead of cause and effect. This in no way should be taken to the extreme. As Dr. Spock said when a parent uses physical force such as a spanking, the first strike is for the child's benefit and the rest are for the parent. Therefor basic punishment doen'nt nessasaraly mean abuse.

Answer 3

Do you have any statistics to back this up (presuming, of course, that statistics are reliable)?
No.
A lot of people say that society is getting more violent and other such things. You know what, I doubt it.
When people say that there is an increase in violence they then go on to say how you read it in the news or hear it on the TV more and more.
There's two good reasons for that. 1/ All media sources are in competition with each other. They exist by selling more and more sensational and lurid stories. A front-page child abuse case is more exiting to read than the local council's man-hole cover strategic policy. So the paper's lead with these stories.
2/ There is also more of these media sources (hence the competition). Quite simply, we have more means of reporting these crimes than we did 100 years or more ago. There is not necessarily any increase in these crimes, just more avenues for reporting them.

Always think about the information you are given - who controls the media, why do they want you to think like that, what effect does this have? etc.

Answer 4

Smacking somebody is not abuse, unless you over do it. As a kid I was smacked but it is so insignificant that when my mother apologised for smacking me years on, I couldn't remember any such occassion. Hardcore physical abuse lasts forever, controlled smacking doesn't.

Don't use that argument that I have selective memory either, my mind doesn't work that way. I remember far worse things from my childhood than smacking.

I agree that abuse does exist but it has always been this way, this topic is only getting more media coverage now.

75% of parents smack their kids? How do you know that? Has the government interviewed all 300m people in the US. No! They interview about a 1,000 and then extrapolate that figure. Who is this sample? They could all be redknecks!

Answer 5

A spanking is ABUSE? Why do you say that. You obviously were brought up in a TIME OUT type upbringing. I was raised with a leather belt, as well as a cherry tree branch. And NO I do not feel that this was abuse in any way shape or form. I think more kids need to be spanked in public or not when they screw up. They know the rules and or guidelines and must adhere to them. They don't behave, then a spanking is coming. And NO I am NOT an abusive husband or father. I never beat my kid as she grew up. I don't ever raise a hand to my wife. BUT I DO believe in discipline. And NO time outs are NOT part of my idea of discipline. I think a kid gets a time out and it is just time to think more about NOT getting CAUGHT the next time. And just in case you think this NO I would never have used a cherry tree branch to punish my kid.

Answer 6

It used to be worse. In the past century, it was ok to beat your child with a strap and leave welts. Also, schools were allowed to "spank" children, and used paddles that at times were like 2X4s.

The limits on punishment came about through the 80's and 90's as the boomers became parents.

And as for lack of spanking contributing to crime - check ANY hard statistics on that - people in prison are far more likely to have been punished with harsh physical dicipline than your average college graduate.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

First off, spanking is not abuse. I am not some weird christian conservative either. I'm from the east coast and not a redneck by any means... I was spanked as a kid and bad kids need to be disciplines. No time out bullsh!t.

Anyway, I don't think there is more child abuse now, there is just more media paying attention to it, more organizations to prevent and stop it, and more programs to teach kids to report it. Believe me, kids had it worse in medieval times, haha.

Answer 9

In truth I believe that there is not more child abuse going on than ever before. I think what we view in society as child abuse has changed over time. I also think that with modern methods of communication and media we are more likely to be aware of the more serious incidences.

Answer 10

Women have chosen jobs over being mothers because they were brainwashed by lesbian activists. Men have been feminized further by this revolution. Add in that these children are decendants of a drug culture from brain damaged parents. There is no pride in the family unit. Self servitude is more important than the inconvenience of child care. People have children but want to dump them off on others. The family unit is gone. It has been replaced by drugs, piercing, tattoes, obnoxious music, gang banging, materialism, laziness, molesters, porno, cable, video games, t.v., poor values, lack of education, the internet, flashy cars, ipods, cell phones, etc. Anything that comes between these material self serving things like kids will be set aside or ignored. The kids suffer from a pathetic excuse for society. People spanking their kids is wrong ninety nine percent of the time but the other one percent is justified because kids push their luck to challenge parents not to whip the hell out of them. Kids have no respect these days. All that aside it is a society that sucks that leaves children behind. Young parents suck in parenting skills, marriages fail, single parents can't afford child care, child care sucks, no father figures or mother figures, children are left at the mercy of child molesters. The family unit usually means a single parent with a bastard child brain damaged from drugs that has to be beat to understand simple respect. My birth certificate says "legitimate"; boy I am glad not to be a bastard child at the mercy of a crack head single parent type family.