I am a 51 year old female who has been married for the past 25 years. I have raised 2 young men ages 18 and 20 who are out on there own and doing well. My husband and I have grown apart. I have been feeling unhappy in marriage for the past 5 years but have kept the family together for the sake of my sons. Now that it is just my husband and me I want to get out and do more thigs. All he wants to do is sit home in his easy chair and watch TV. I have been a good wife and mother and feel that it is now my turn to enjoy life. My husband and I have not been growing close, we have been growing apart. All my friends are absolutely shoked that I would even consider leaving him to pursue some happiness on my own. They say after 25 years, we should stay together and weather the rest of what life has to offer. Sexual life has been nonexistant for the past 6 months and I need closeness.
2006-09-10 23:56:41 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Spice up your marriage together! Take a vacation, get to know each other again
If it still does not work, well then move on!
2006-09-11 00:14:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anarchy99 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What have you done to fix this in the previous 10 years. Why do I get the feeling that you weren't interested in him for years, only being a mother. Now you have no kids at home and he is what you allowed/ encouraged him to become. Before you think about bailing out you need to work on rekindling a relationship. If you can't get some response from someone with a shared life and history why do you think the outside will be any different. Do you really think that the people your age who are available out there
have any better handle on closeness than you seem not to have?
2006-09-11 08:01:07 · answer #2 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he does sit and watch tv then that shows that he will never do things with you that you want husband to be with you go places.
I think that you should follow your heart and do what you always want to do... who cares what friends say about 25 years of marriage. because, you been doing for 20 years take care of the boys and making sure they take care and makeing sure they have everything they needed. and you husband didn't help you at all for all those years. maybe some times, but you know life is short just follow the dream or life you want to do....
IT YOUR TURN TO DO IT. I am the husband of my wife for 9 years now 2 kids and 3rd on the way.. I never feel like him.. I feel like a great father who been with wife and kids and having fun to do things as a family if my kids grown and left and just my wife and me? I know that we still do things together and having fun.
Or you don't have to divorce him just you go out and do things your own....or talked to your sons and tell themhow you feel. so first try to do your own with out divorce... and if didn't work out then talked to your sons and tell them how you feel.. i would want my mom tell me how she feel.. knowing that my mom took care of me and being there for me if dad not been there much for me. then I would do anything for my mom. so, i hope this helps.
smiling.
2006-09-11 08:13:41 · answer #3 · answered by greenbaypackers1920 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not wrong. At least you recognize it before it's to late and you still have time in your life to enjoy it. If he's not willing to get out from in front of the TV long enough and make a change than that's all you can do. You've lived your life long enough for other people.
2006-09-11 07:03:03 · answer #4 · answered by nosredna3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Weigh the pros and the cons and ask yourself if there's some way to save your marriage. Really put your all into reviving it for the next six months .If you're still unhappy, then burn free and enjoy life!
2006-09-11 07:06:51 · answer #5 · answered by MJ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your Heart
2006-09-11 08:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by R W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please note that, the Bible (word of God) condemned divorce. No matter the religion you belong. God is our only FATHER and WE should OBEY HIM and HIS WORDS.
You have gone a very long way with him. WHY NOW? Please call him and talk to him the way he should understand your feelings and thinking. It is understanding each other, that will help in this present situation. If you are not a christian yet, try and be, because the days are evil.
2006-09-11 07:12:21 · answer #7 · answered by joe 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nothing wrong with you wanting to start again... you can either tell your husband that you want an open marriage so that you can still have that place, while looking for something new and tantalising outside the home...
or you can make a fresh break and try all the things you want to try with new (or old) friends...
GO FOR IT, GIRL!!!
2006-09-11 07:01:51 · answer #8 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Time to get out, you still have some liven to do...
2006-09-11 07:00:32 · answer #9 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋