Well she is my elder brother's wife cousin sister,i am confused that whether i love this girl or sympathize her, she has nice personality, good looks, attractive personality, but the problem is that she is partially lame,and she is older than me. i think about her very much, she is always on mind, and i m unable to concentrate of my work. Sometime ifeel that i can live my whole life with her, and than sometime i feel i m not that couragious to do that. I dont know whether i should go further in this relationship or not. Please help.
2006-09-10 23:41:24 · 5 answers · asked by chippychap 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It sounds like you have already done alot of soul searching about this girl and your feelings for her. I am very impressed with you honest y about her physical restraints and your hesitations regarding them, but don't we all have physical, emotional or psychological restraints that may hender various parts of our lives on an every day basis?
It won't take courage to be with the woman that you are obviously falling in love with, especially if she is first off your best friend before anything else. Search your heart because it sounds to me you already have your answer. She's the one that has touched your heart so deeply that you can't think of anything else.
That sort of love doesn't come around too often in one's lifetime, so don't let her pass you by. If you do, some other lucky man will find this wonderful woman and you'll spend the rest of your life wondering "what if".
2006-09-11 00:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by cmandrews_27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, sympathy would simply be that you feel sorry for her, and want to help her simply because of her lameness. It's compassion, but only for the sake of the injury, not the person with it.
Infatuation would be, "I could be willing to spend my whole life with her"... but in times of sickness, poor finances, a wandering eye, and other distractions, the relationship would be over... possibly ending with the thought of how much life is easier without her.
Love would withstand the test of time, the trials of her disability mean nothing to you, your hearts stand true as the bank account runs on empty, the scorn of others does not affect you, and the mere thought of life without her pains your heart.
Look inside... how do you feel...? Are you simply concerned with her well-being? Could you live life happily without her? Or would you give every ounce of your being to be with her, and serve her for the rest of your days, despite all costs? This is the difference between sympathy, infatuation, and love.
2006-09-10 23:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by seraphim_pwns_u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
c if u love her u should also have the guts to face the reality, which u don't have
if its infactuation then leave the subject, avoid her n concentrate on other activities
if its sympathy- never ever fall to that word-neither for yourself nor for others.
if u feel that the other person is a little down to u help him/her on his acceptance, never ever feel symathatic.
2006-09-10 23:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello..i suggest you get to know her more..soon you'll be able to find out if you really like her..she must be a very special girl in order for you to feel this way about her..don't let this opportunity slip away..all the best! =)
2006-09-10 23:56:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes this is ur soul mate dont let her get away...
2006-09-10 23:45:48 · answer #5 · answered by triple sec 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋